Post # 1
Hi everyone. I just recently got engaged. I am hAving five people in my wedding party. One of these friends is getting married this year and is not having a bridal party at all. She has not included me in any way, not evn for planningoff parties, decorations, etc. we have had more than a few rocky moments in our relationship but have been working to make it better. I decided to have her as a bridesmaid and one of my other close friends as the maid of honor. She got very upset about this decision unfriended me on Facebook,and sent me an email saying she no longer wanted to communicate with me. I’m in shock. In fact, I just sent her a personalized card in the mail to formally ask her to be a part of my wedding that she will be receiving in the next day or two. Has anyone else ever experienced anything like this? Is this normal behavior? I never thought that planning a wedding would result in me losing friends. I apologize for grammatical errors. For some reason, I can’t go back to correct them. Advice needed. Thanks.
Post # 3
So…what exactly was she upset about? That someone else was the MOH, or that you made her a bridesmaid?
Either way, YES there is often some drama around weddings – it’s an emotional time for everyone involved – some people have lost/damaged friendships as a result. Was her reaction to you making her a bridesmaid unusual – YES. Unless you did or said something that might have upset her, I really don’t know why she would have reacted that way.
Post # 4
Yes. She is upset because I did not choose her as MOH. She asked me had I decided who it was going to be. I said yes, I decided that – would be the MOH. Then she responded back with she No longer wants to talk to me, etc. it was totally out of left field. I can’t believe that it would make her this upset though. Especially considering that she is getting married in a couple of months and is not havingpar bridal party at all. Thanks for the info!
Post # 5
Honestly she sounds like the kind of girl who will butt heads with everyone in your wedding and will malot your life way more stressful than it already pls while planning a wedding. I think she may have done you a favor in the long run….
Post # 6
Make not malot! My iPhone is out to make me look ridiculous I swear!!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
What a beeyotch. As PP said, she probably would have caused you even more grief in the planning process, so she might have done you a favor. Wonder why she didn’t have a bridal party if it is so important to her!
Post # 8
It might be for the best that she removed herself! This isn’t normal ‘adult’ behavior, but it happens more than I’d like to know about. Maybe she’s not the kind of friend worth keeping? I’m sorry that is happening though. Way to rain on the parade ex-bridesmaid!
Post # 9
Not rational. The bride chooses the bridal party. Her behavior is not normal,
and I’d say you haven’t lost a friend – a friend would understand and be supportive of your choices.
Post # 10
@Shayluvs28: Woah. That chick is Crazy Daisy, I think it’s time to thank the heavens above she’s not going to be in your bridal party!
Post # 11
Thank you everyone for the responses and advice. I think you all are right. This was a blessing in desguise and has revealed much about our friendship. I’m glad that she decided to remove herself from my life as she so eloquently put it. It hurts but I’m sure I will feel better about it as time goes on.
Post # 12
Sounds like you dodged a bullet, my friend. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Post # 13
@Shayluvs28: She’s acting like a child. Later on you can decide if you want to invite her as a guest, but she has made it clear that she doesn’t want to be in your wedding, or even be your friend, unless it is entirely on her terms.
Post # 14
Sounds like the type of person who you probably won’t be friends with 20 years down the road! Good choice not making her your maid of honor!