Friends and Maid of Honor- is this rational?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

So…what exactly was she upset about? That someone else was the MOH, or that you made her a bridesmaid?

Either way, YES there is often some drama around weddings – it’s an emotional time for everyone involved – some people have lost/damaged friendships as a result. Was her reaction to you making her a bridesmaid unusual – YES. Unless you did or said something that might have upset her, I really don’t know why she would have reacted that way.

Post # 5
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly she sounds like the kind of girl who will butt heads with everyone in your wedding and will malot your life way more stressful than it already pls while planning a wedding. I think she may have done you a favor in the long run….

Post # 6
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Make not malot! My iPhone is out to make me look ridiculous I swear!!!

Post # 7
2914 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

What a beeyotch. As PP said, she probably would have caused you even more grief in the planning process, so she might have done you a favor. Wonder why she didn’t have a bridal party if it is so important to her!

Post # 8
1660 posts
Bumble bee

It might be for the best that she removed herself! This isn’t normal ‘adult’ behavior, but it happens more than I’d like to know about. Maybe she’s not the kind of friend worth keeping? I’m sorry that is happening though. Way to rain on the parade ex-bridesmaid!

Post # 9
4089 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Not rational.  The bride chooses the bridal party.    Her behavior is not normal,

and I’d say you haven’t lost a friend – a friend would understand and be supportive of your choices.  

Post # 10
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Shayluvs28:  Woah. That chick is Crazy Daisy, I think it’s time to thank the heavens above she’s not going to be in your bridal party!

Post # 12
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sounds like you dodged a bullet, my friend. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Post # 13
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Shayluvs28:  She’s acting like a child. Later on you can decide if you want to invite her as a guest, but she has made it clear that she doesn’t want to be in your wedding, or even be your friend, unless it is entirely on her terms.

Post # 14
8 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sounds like the type of person who you probably won’t be friends with 20 years down the road!  Good choice not making her your maid of honor!


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