Post # 1
I’m in shock and don’t know what to do. My good friend who’s also in my MBA program called me at 4pm to let me know her Boyfriend or Best Friend had been in an accident at work (tree company) and she was on the way to the hospital and might not make it to the exam we had scheduled at 6:30 tonight.
At 5 she texted me that he was killed. I called her hoping this might be a mistype or something..but no, he’s dead.
They had been together for at least 5 years, lived together, have dogs together…He was at my wedding in July.
What do I say to her to comfort her? She told me to tell the professor she wouldnt make it (obvi) and I got that done no problem, but I feel so BAD. I have no idea what I would do if my Darling Husband was killed. My Darling Husband is also very upset because he went to highschool with the guy and knew him very well.
I’m not used to loosing people this young! Help!
Post # 3
Wow. That is so sad. You may not need to say anything beyond “I’m so sorry.”
She may just want a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold. Someone to hand her tissues or bring her food if she’s immobilized by grief.
Post # 4
I really don’t think there’s anything you can say in this situation. Just be there for her.
I’m so sorry for your – and your friend’s – loss.
Post # 5
That’s a super bummer.
Is she someone who would appreciate having you stay over at her house? Or being able to stay at yours?
Tell her she can call you, any time, day or night (as long as that’s cool with you) and insist that you mean it, because people still think that they can’t.
Post # 6
Wow! That is so sad! 🙁 Sorry you have to experience this loss. I would just tell your friend you are very sorry for her loss and ask if there is anything you can do or just let her know if she needs anything you’ll be there for her.
Post # 7
I’m sorry this is happening. I think the best you can do is be there for her and help her do the little things. Try to bring her some meals to make sure she’s eating. Maybe offer to take care of a few basic things around the house while she’s grieving and arranging the funeral. It can be hard to face day-to-day life after this kind of loss.
Post # 8
I agree there is rarely anything one can say to someone in that situation.Cook for her,pray for her,spend the night with her.Just be a friend.Sorry for your loss 🙁
Post # 9
@Ashenstar: I agree, there may not be more that you can say… Just be there for her, it’s going to take her a long time to heal… my heart goes out to her.
Post # 10
Cook for her,pray for her,spend the night with her.Just be a friend
I agree with Kellmerr. I would also add, just listen to her. She is going to need a shoulder to cry on in the many, many long and difficult months ahead.
What a sad story… I will light a candle for your friend tonight.
Post # 11
I’m sorry for your loss…
Sometimes in situations like these just saying “I’m here if you need me” isnt enough. If she is a really close friend you may want to check in on her a lot. Drop by to help walk the dogs or make dinner etc. Maybe you and your Darling Husband can help her do the necessary closet clense when it comes time.
Good Luck just be a supportive friend until she says otherwise.
Post # 12
When I spoke to her briefly on the phone at 5 she was at the hospital with 30 people already. I asked if she wanted us to come, but she said there were too many people there already and she couldn’t talk much more after that. I also told her I was there for her if she needed help with anything like her dogs or to bring food etc,,.. (thats all I could think of at the moment).
Ughhh, what an awful thing to happen! I’m still in shock…
Post # 13
Oh my gosh. How terrible.
Just keep letting her know that you are there for her. She’s (understandably) going to go through a crazy roller-coaster of emotions and just knowing that you are there for her may be enough to help her through.
Post # 14
That’s horrible! : ( I can’t even imagine what she’s going through.
I can’t really add anything to what the others have said. Just be there for her, let her cry, yell, talk.
Ugh, just so awful! : (