Post # 1
I have a friend who is getting married next month. She is actually the Fiance of a close guy friend, so we’ve hang out as couples, but I’m not really one-on-one friends with her. She has two bridesmaids, both friends from college who I have never met.
She told me a few weeks ago to put aside a certain date for her Bachelorette party. Since then, I haven’t heard anything. I reached out to her today to ask about plans because I wanted to make sure that the date hasn’t changed. She told me that her bridesmaid’s flaked on her and now nothing is planned.
Her Fiance is having his bachlor party in a few weeks and my Darling Husband is going. I’m thinking about asking her and another mutual girlfriend to dinner. Is it weird? I don’t think it’s really my place to do anything, but the thought of her sitting home alone while her Fiance (and my DH) are out with all of their friends makes me sad.
What would you do?
Post # 3
I would ask her what she wants to do…and do it!
Post # 4
That’s not weird. I think she would appreciate it.
TOTALLY do it(:
Post # 5
Oh no , that is so sad, yes for sure do something for her, every girl deserves a party if she wants one! your a really good friend!
Post # 6
@CanAmBride: I think it’s a lovely idea. Maybe you can do a mani/pedi before dinner or something so there is some ‘occasion’ to it. Poor girl…flaky friends are the worst.
Post # 7
Definitely ask her – I’m sure that will mean alot to her!!
Do you all also have more mutual friends – like other guy’s girlfriends you hang out with, if so you can invite them along too!
Post # 8
@CanAmBride: oh definitely thatd be lovely. im sure she’d appreciate it
it sucks her friends flaked on her, id be really disappointed
Post # 9
Thanks Bees! Do you think I have to invite her flaky bridesmaids?? I really don’t want to, as 1) I don’t know them 2) they didn’t plan anything for her and 3) they seem like total b–tches!!
Post # 10
@CanAmBride: I wouldn’t invite the BMs. They had their chance to plan a party for her and if I were the bride I would rather have a nice, relaxing evening than have to deal with Bridesmaid or Best Man drama!
Post # 11
I think that seems like a really nice idea – I’m sure she’d love it!
Post # 12
@CanAmBride: i wouldnt want to but i probably would. but itd be a big problem if they flake again. once is bad, two is really hurtful. and shed probably be disappointed all night
so ive changed my mind. dont invite them!
Post # 13
I would plan a little something for her and not invite the BM’s. I would invite some of your good friends who you think would make nice new friends for her.
Post # 14
@CanAmBride: That’s sweet of you. You should go for it (without the bm’s)! Maybe you’ll gain a new friend.
Post # 15
That’s a sweet idea! I’d go for it and leave the BMs out that way that don’t feel awkward (even though its their fault they flaked, but it’ll save you drama). Thats so nice of you! 🙂
Post # 16
+1 to yes do it! In fact my bachelorette happened that way, as far as I can tell. They realised the bachelor party was that night, so they put something together for me at short notice.
Don’t bother with the BMs, keep it to people you know. If you know any other girls whose partners are going to the bachelor party you could invite them too.