- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I don’t know if this falls under waiting because I’m seriously not jealous of this.
I used to live with two friends, “Tiffany,” and “Sylvia.” Since then we’ve all moved and now live in different states.
Well, Tiffany got engaged over the weekend. Before this went up, Tiffany had called Sylvia to tell her about it but I found out from Facebook (which I was a little upset about but that’s not the point). Here’s the kicker — I HAD NO IDEA SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP! So I texted our friend who we lived with to find out if it was even real!
She was dating “Matt” when I was her roommate. They were totally in love and talking about marriage but then one day they randomly broke up. She seemed okay and she even got into a different relationship with “Tim” but she ended it after not too long because she still wasn’t over Matt.
She said she’d cry herself to sleep every night and couldn’t eat she was so upset.I’d text her every now and again to see how she was doing since she’s my friend and I care about her but she hasn’t responded to me in the last few weeks.
I told Sylvia I’m finding it a little difficult to be happy for Tiffany’s engagement to Tim when it was only 2 months ago she was depressed about Matt!
Sylvia told me that Tiffany and Tim were dating on and off for 6 months. Tim would comfort her when she was crying and dying over Matt. She decided that since he was willing to endure her emotional crises that he’d do anything for her so that’s why she knows he’s the one.
So I start to think…okay maybe she healed quickly and Tim is really right for her. But then I get a call from a mutual friend Paul who said that THREE WEEKS AGO she had met up with Matt and they got back together but then broke up the next day!!
This news is disturbing. It’s one thing to get engaged to someone not long into the relationship. It’s quite another to get engaged to someone when 3 weeks ago you got back together with your ex. I’m so concerned because:
1) Her emotions have been so volitile! She is not stable enough to make a marriage committment.
2) If Tim doesn’t know about the brief reuinion with Matt, she isn’t being honest. If he does know and decided to propose anyway, this dude is pathetic!!
I don’t know what to do, she’s my friend and I love her but this is a bad bad bad situation. And I know I can’t say anything because I’m not about to rain on her parade. She is excited and won’t want criticism. Plus I might just come off as jealous because I’m dying for my ring!
Does this sound like something that should be on Dr. Phil or what?