Friends is good.
Mr TTR & I started out as friends… having met thru a Mutual Friend.
I was coming off an Ugly Divorce, and not looking to date at all (altho I did think that Mr TTR was cute, and a nice guy… he had a lot of character / an upright guy… that was very evident)
We were friends for a few months, hanging out mostly in a group setting, before I agreed to go out with him.
So ya, we established a lot of information about each other early on, when we weren’t dating… that in some ways made our whole getting to know each other as BF & GF easier in the early days.
Friends with Benefits… I get and I don’t get.
I am definitely conflicted on this front.
I get it in that adults aren’t naturally celibate.
And I don’t get it, because inevitably someone gets hurt…
Because it is just human nature that when it comes to Male & Female Relationships… including sexual ones… that one person ALWAYS has more of themselves IN to the situation than the other person
Anyone who cannot see that to be human nature… is only kidding themselves.
So would I be “judging” someone who is opting for this sort of set up vs a real relationship with someone…
Or even a one-night stand (Oh wow, cannot believe I said that)
But it is true… it is how I feel.
As I say I get it… but that doesn’t mean I agree with it… cause it is “intentionally” IMO setting someone up for heartache
It is also in my experience hard enough to date someone when you don’t know their Exes (I met Mr TTR when he was free & clear and not involved with someone).
It is much harder if you actually know about the previous person, or have met them etc.
I am not 100% sure where you are going with your Question… in regards to your friend.
But these are my thoughts on the issue.