Friend's Helping with wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much would you pay a helpful friend??
    0-$100.00 just a little something so that they feel appreciated : (5 votes)
    18 %
    $100-$200.00 : (7 votes)
    25 %
    $200-$500.00 : (11 votes)
    39 %
    $500 and up : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 4
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    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Tallulah_:  I would suggest researching the normal cost of a dj and photog in your area and then giving them… maybe 50% of that?

    Post # 6
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m in the same boat. We are on a very small budget and our wedding is not going to be anything fancy but I don’t want to ask people to do stuff for free. I don’t think we can even afford 50% of the average cost. I wish they were getting married too so I could just help them out in return!

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Tallulah_:  ….there is an average cost for everything.

    Post # 8
    Member
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Tallulah_:  Do you know what each of them normally charges for other people?  It’d at least be a starting point.  Take into consideration their travel expenses, equipment, and time.

    Post # 11
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    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think giving them half of what a vendor would normally charge is fair. 

    We met with a few photographers and DJ’s.  The photographers we met with started at $1500 and went up from there depending on package. I never knew photography could be so expensive! I was definitely in sticker shock! Then again they do spend all day with you. Is this photographer friend printing your pictures and creating photo album(s)? If so that takes a lot of time and energy so you may want to consider that as well. The DJ’s we met with started at $800 and went up from there depending on package.

     

    Post # 13
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I’d reimburse them in a non-monetary way.  They’re helping you out by providing a service.  They agreed to do so beforehand at no cost.  Turning around and giving them money may offend them!  They may consider it their gift to you.  It’d be like giving someone money when they gave you china or crystal.  It’s just weird and inappropriate.

    I think giving them a gift in return or a nice thank you card is fine.  Take them out to dinner or pay it forward in the future some other way.  But especially if they do this for a living, giving them anything less than what they usually charge could be insulting.

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