friends. hurt. just want to vent.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
6632 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

People change, priorities change that’s what happens as we get older. I wouldn’t say they are as you put it pooping on you, I would say their lives are changing and friendship has ran its course. Time to move on and find new friends

Post # 4
55 posts
Worker bee

Sounds a lot like my situation with my SO. Everyone is so flaky and time is so limited in the city that it’s hard to have any solid foundation with other couples. All of my friends are single so they aren’t interested in being the 3rd wheel all of the time.. They want to go out drinking with other single women. He has several male friends with wives and girlfriends and we do hang out from time to time with them, but only if WE initiate. There have been times we have another couple over for dinner only to never hear from them unless we reach out. We also invite them out to concerts and whatnot and we all have a great time, but at the same time if we don’t put in any effort then we’ll never hang out! I try not to let it bother me too much, but it really bothers him which upsets me.

It is frustrating and plain rude, and I feel you!

Post # 5
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016 - Church in Shedd Oregon

I understand why you feel so hurt. You never really think your friendships are going to end when everybody grows up and goes their seperate ways. I recently just moved to a new state and I live with my fiance but in the year and a half i’ve been here I only made one girlfriend (she’s still more like an acquaintence). It’s difficult becasue i’m from SoCal and making friends was so easy down there! Since i’ve moved really only one friend (my best friend) stays in contact with me but she’s so busy with her own life apart from me that we only talk once a month. She is also my maid of honor. I feel hurt too because she used to come to me for everything and now when we do talk its about wedding stuff and she doesnt seem interested or a quick update with her life where she ommits alot of things that i later find out on FB. 

I’m sorry you feel the way you do, i know whats it’s like. 

Post # 6
6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

hugs, sorry you are going through this but now it is time to make new friends.  join a club, join meetup, etc.

DH has a ton of friends that he has known since childhood.  i have a small number of friends that i’ve made in the past 10 years.  i am not friends with anyone from my childhood.

i also have a super small family and i am not in touch with my dad’s side at all.

sometimes it sucks, but i’ve met a lot of new people through DH.

one time i asked him if we should make new friends as a couple and he told me he had enough friends.  i was a little hurt by this but got over it.


Post # 8
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’re not alone ::hugs:: I’m finding that the older I get, the harder it is to keep friends, even though making them is pretty easy.  DH and I have pretty much given up on making “good” friends, and have decided to be content with having nice acquaintances to occasionally go out with.  We have really low expectations just because we’ve been disappointed so many times.  I try to remember to be grateful, because I’d much rather have an awesome relationship with DH and meh friends, rather than the other way around!

Post # 9
5194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

As we get older and take on new responsibilities, job, marriage, new home, children, our circle of close friends changes and also gets smaller; it is normal that meeting up with friends just to have fun loses priority.

Post # 10
906 posts
Busy bee

I totally feel you. I have friends who are married. Infact I have friends who are married with kids. I have moved around a lot but I learn that every time I visit my home state with my parents that my immediate family comes first ie my sister and grandparents. 

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