Post # 1
I have been engaged since March but have just begun the wedding planning process (just finished graduate school). Anyways, we made our guest list last weekend and we both have large families so a bulk of the guest are non-neogotiable. This means that I have to cut my old friends out. However, I just got word that one of my BMs is planning a shower with three non-invited guests. I was shocked when I found out and said something to my BM about the small wedding, etc…But do I need to suck it up and invite the other ladies? or do I just say "no thanks" to the shower.
Post # 3
Did she know that the other guests weren’t invited?
Post # 4
If she didn’t run the shower guest list by you, then I feel lit is her responsibility to let these girls know that they won’t be invited to the wedding but are welcome at the shower. Is it a formal shower (Your wedding is a year out, so I wasn’t sure if it was more of a ‘celebrate the bride’ engagement party), either way, if you weren’t planning to invite them and the only reason you would is because of this shower, then really that’s ridiculous. I’d talk to the BM and let her know the situation, in detail, tell her you will give her a list of guests and for her to run any sort of shower guest list by you.
Post # 5
Wow! I’m surprised that the shower is being planned already since you’re not getting married till 2010.
Maybe your BM wasn’t aware, buit I think once you explain that to her, she’ll understand. I made sure to tell members of my family not to invite people to the shower or mention the wedding only because I know they would start inviting people left and right.
Post # 6
My best friend’s family was a last minute add on. I didn’t mind so much except one of her sisters though it was ok to bring a guest. I was a little miffed but oh well. thank goodness the site did not charge us!
Post # 7
thanks for the input. Its pretty frustrating…and my head has been spinning trying to grasp and take in all of the wedding hoopla.