Post # 1
My fiance and I have discussed not having a bridal party for the sake of simplicity, and not being forced to choose between friends/family, or making people feel like they didn’t “make the cut”. We would like our friends to be involved, and honored, but not have the burden and expense usually associated with weddings. And we didn’t like the idea of having a large group standing up with us. So instead, we have decided to ask those who would have been in the wedding party to be “Friends of Honor”. We would ideally like to have them there to get ready with us, and maybe even take pictures with us, but without all of the formality. So our plan is to ask his close guy friends to merely wear a tie in the same color scheme as our wedding (or we may even buy them ties), and ask my close girl friends to wear a dress within our color scheme, and I would maybe buy them matching jewelry. Or, just let them wear whatever they want, not care about the color, and still give them matching jewelry (or some other distinguishing gift).
What do you think?
Post # 3
It sounds like the same thing as a bridal party honestly. The people you leave out of the “friends of honor” group will still feel left out. Are you planning on them walking in the ceremony or having them in the programs? Anyways it is your wedding and i think you are allowed to do whatever you want!
Post # 4
I agree with Allyser.. that your “friends of honor” group sounds the same as a bridal party. So i am not clear what the diference really is.
Post # 5
I kinda got the impression from the OPs post that they wouldnt be standing up with them?? thats the way that I could only kinda differ from a bridal party. But OP I would love to hear more of what you had in mind!
Post # 6
I love this idea. As an older bride, I just couldn’t see asking my mid-40-something friends and sisters to wear bridesmaid dresses or walk up the aisle (and they thanked me for it!). And yet, several of them have really stepped up to help out with the planning, decorating and day-of coordination, and I absolutely want them with me when I get ready. They, are indeed, my “friends of honor”! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with the others, it does seem like a bridal party. I think it would be fine to have an actual bridal party and maybe reserve some seats for them so they’re not standing up with you during the wedding.
Post # 8
I am doing somehting similiar and asked a couple of people to be part of my entourage. I am getting married on a gondola in Las vegas, and it will be just me and FI on the boat. I do have an official maid of honor who gets to sign as my witness, and I’ll get her flowers, but other than that, she gets to pick her own dress and doesn’t have to do much. I asked a very good friend and my fi’s sister (the one I am close to, but I think I will eventually ask the other…) if they would like to help me out and get ready with me, and than head over to the ceremony with me. I basically told them if we were having a bigger wedding and having a bridal party they would have been in it, but I am not. I just wanted to let them know they are special and participate.
I have done some things with other special friends too, just to include them. I had two friends go with me to pick out a dress, one come with me to pick it up and last fitting (unless I need another one), and one pick out shoes. I have another friend helping me with our party (not really a formal reception). I think they are happy to be included. I think your friends will be too, and as far as people being offended, well you can’t please everyone, so at least please yourself!
Post # 9
I think it sounds liek you have a bridal party.
Instead of Bridal Party your have friends of honor
Instead of making them buy a dress YOU love you are making them buy a dress (or tie) in a colour scheme YOU love
The BP and the “Friends o Honor” both have to be there to get ready etc.
I guess what i am saying is, besdies the title change, whats the difference? You are sitll excluding some friends etc….I guess im just not getting what the difference is
Post # 10
I kind of get what she’s saying. We’re not having a bridal party. No one will be at the alter with us or wearing matching outfits. We are going to have pictures taken with some specific special friends (our chosen family)at the wedding. I am also not opposed to a couple of my close friends being with me when I get ready ( and I do need someone to lace up my dress!).