(Closed) Friends Politics!!!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

To be perfectly honest, I think it’s fine to invite the ones you kept in touch with but not the others. I’m in a similar situation, I’ve lost touch with heaps of people from primary and high school that I was once close with.

If you don’t have enough in common that you (and them) can’t keep in touch over ten years, then they’re obviously not a big enough part of your life to invite them to your wedding. Especially when you keep in mind that you would have to pay for their reception meals and drinks (possibly 100/head for people you and your partner don’t know??).

Looking at it from another perspective, my FI was invited to a high school friend’s wedding a year or so ago. He had had no contact with this guy since they graduated and the whole wedding just felt weird for us – he only knew a few people there, and the conversation with the groom (the guy who invited him) just felt stilted and awkward. Think about how your old friends will feel at the wedding and how you (and your other guests) will interact with them and whether they will actually enjoy themselves.

Post # 5
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Invite whoever you want to invite. Don’t feel obliged to invite a bunch of folks you no longer know. You are paying for your own wedding and it’s very expensive as it is!

Post # 6
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree – if there’s been no contact for many years, then it’s just awkward.

There’s a guy I went to school with – back in the day we were pretty good friends (he was the girls guy in our group). He moved away to study, but would come home to see family at xmas, he came home for some of our 21st bdays – we went on a road trip to his town for his 21st bday… but gradually over time we’ve drifted apart. We’re still technically FB friends but rarely speak, he doesn’t even communicate when he comes home to see his family. I don’t remember the last conversation we had – text/FB/or face-to-face.

I’m not too distraught – he’s made some dodgy choices & that’s his problem. (At a friend’s wedding a few yrs ago, he whined to me about how jealous he was of the couple because his girlfriend was married & refused to leave her husband for him. Yeah). I’ve moved on with my life & he’s not part of it. I have no plans to invite him but I know he’s going to sook about it when he realises he’s not invited. Oh well!

Post # 7
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My venue can seat 100 people max so I’ve the best excuse to not invite certain people lol.

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