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"Friends" real life situations post school?

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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    Hey Bees,

    So I just watched the show "Friends" last episode with my future hubs and got to thinking...how many people have THAT close of friends for that long of a time? I had great friends in HS, then a new set in college and now a few left over from college I am still very close to and a few from work but I know we will move in a year or two, etc

    I've never had issues making friends but minus work/neighors...what do you guys do as far as meeting people? Do you have friends you hang out with every week? Just you or you and your FH? I'm very curious!!

    I want people that we are very close to and see a lot and share our lives with!

    Anyone else thought of this or am I alone in this?

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't think I've EVER had friends as close as they are on that show! I wish I did!!

    Currently pretty much all of our friends are through school. No idea what we'll do once we graduate, haha!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    No, my friends are very important to me. I need nurturing, caring, and fun relationships beyond my husband and my family. I have a small handful of very close friends I plan on always keeping in touch with. As for "every week", well, that doesn't happen. I don't even see DH that much! But seriously, we all live about 30 min apart from each other and every week is not practical with our schedules. But this is why we have email, glorious email =]

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    Yes, email and facebook and text messaging! thank goodness :)

     
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    cinemaparadiso    July 16, 2015  

    I have close friends, but they pretty much shift depending on the year/my schedule. I think a lot of it has to do with the types of places I've lived. As much as I hate to say it, my friends are very southern and, well, I've had the privilege of living a little more cultured lifestyle. I still love them, but we're very different and so our relationship reflects that. I think if I do find friends who love the same things I love A LOT, I'd be more inclined to stay friends with them forever.

     
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    cowboyboot    October 4, 2009   Santa Fe, NM

    I totally feel like you do--fairly alone (besides Mr. CB) at this point in our lives, especially living in Santa Fe where the median age isn't exactly reflective of, say, San Fran or New York. I have friends I talk to from college and high school (who live in other cities), but the day-to-day is less friend-filled. Maybe that's why I love my two dogs so much--good hiking partners. Occasionally I make a work friend who I become close with (I've been there for almost 3 years), but most of them move on to other cities within six months to one year. It's disconcerting. I still talk to a couple of them, now that they've moved, but I could see that fading too. I guess that's why Mr. CB and I don't feel "settled" yet? We often talk about missing out on a close group of friends who are at the same point in their lives as we are.

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I don't get to see my friends nearly as much as they do on that show, and frankly, I'm not sure we'd still be friends if I did! I love them, but it's nice having an independent life. R is really the only person I see consistently every day besides my other roommates, but we don't really hang out that much. 

     
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    jduck84    August 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    Hmm, I'm a hermit. I spend most of my time with the fiance and family, I keep in close touch with my best friend from college, and one friend from high school. I see other friends from past jobs every couple months or so, and former college roommates at events like weddings, but I guess that's it.

    I really like having my own space... and facebook and weddingbee, I guess. :)

     
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    luli29    October 9, 2010   Massachusetts

    I had a close group of friends (mostly guys) in HS, and then all my friends in college were females...also just a handful.

    I honestly, and sadly, don't keep up with my college friends at all really. However, my friendship with a few of my HS friends is still strong (3 especially). I can't believe its been 7 years since we left HS and we're still friends and hang out.

    They aren't close friends, but we always make time to meet up once in a while...I think we'll always find time for eachother.

    I have to say though, I am not the outgoing type...which is why I don't make friends easily.

     
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    july112010    July 11, 2010   los angeles

    Ive always been the type of person to have really close friends. My best friend has been my best friend since 3rd grade. All of my really close friends ive had for years. I dont get to see them weekly, although I wish I did. Its hard once you grown up, get married, and have seperate lives. The only good thing about it is I have friends all over the place, and never run out of places to visit! When I was in college though I hung out with friends daily, I miss that =(

     
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    arizonabride    June 2, 2010   Tucson, AZ

    I moved around a lot as  kid and never lived anywhere before H.S. longer than 3 yrs. Then after I married at 32, I had a big falling out with 2 of my 3 closest BFFs, with no explanation whatsoever. I'm pretty choosey now about friends. We have a select few close friends that we hang out with, but we live 30 min. from all of them and they have kids (we don't), so we see them more like once a month. When we move, which will be in 1-2 months, I see us developing new friendships with people and bettering our social life a little, but I don't see it changing that much.

     

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