Post # 1
A friend’s registry is demolished such that there’s only about $60 left to buy. I planned to spend about $175 and already gave a gift before her move of $15-20. So…I am shy about $100.
I’ve texted suggesting she add to her registry. If she doesn’t, what would you suggest I get that are generically good presents?
I can get more of a few items she already has listed (e.g. get 12 instead of 8, and 8 instead of 6), but that only brings me $25 more. If I don’t buy tonight/tomorrow, even the $60 worth will likely be gone. Wedding is Saturday.
Note: I will NOT contribute to their honeymoon fund or give straight up cash. I don’t like the idea, and am supremely uncomfortable directly giving cash to a friend for a wedding (feels too much like a transaction – I give you X, you must give me back X, etc.) I want her to have a tangible item even if she returns it.
(I’m delinquent on buying because I had contemplated making a lap quilt for her, but we are in the process of buying a house and I decided I just don’t have time to do it.)
Post # 3
I’d get her something from the store she’s registered at (What about a super nice $150 set of knives?), and have them mark it as bought related to their registry.
So if she wants to return it, she can! Or exchange it for other stuff she might want (we exchanged an apron, three dish cloths, an ice cream maker, and two gift cards for our Roomba, which I use twice a week!)
Post # 4
You could always get her a gift card to the store where she registered. I know it’s pretty common to realize after the wedding that there’s additional things they need that they weren’t expecting.
Post # 5
I’d either get a gift certificate or look at her registry items and find something close. (same material, colors, etc). Make sure that you tell the store it’s for her registry, if she doesn’t like it, she can then return it no problems.
Post # 6
cant go wrong with a gift card to wherever she’s registered
Post # 7
I would say get her a gift card to the store she registered so she can go ahead and get more of the stuff she wants.
You can never have enough towels and sheets. Maybe get her more sets of what she already has? Or if her china set is only a set of 8, she likely would need a set of 12 and not realize it. You can add to her china set.
Post # 8
Gift card to a spa for her and her new husband?
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@kay01: I’d give her a $100 gift card to the store she registered at. We got a lot of gift cards to Williams & Sonoma and had a BLAST shopping there when we got back from our honeymoon – I’ve never in my life had that much money in gift cards and been able to buy anything in the whole store! It was awesome! I totally understand not wanting to give cash, but I think a gift card would be very much appreciated.
Do she and her husband drink wine? You could also give them a basket with 3 bottles of wine – one to drink on their wedding night, one to drink on their honeymoon, and one to drink on their first anniversary. I’ve always thought that was a really cool idea and would personally love to receive some nice bottles of wine we wouldn’t otherwise buy ourselves because we’re too cheap.
Crate & Barrel has a lot of beautiful marble kitchen pieces, like cutting boards, cheese boards, etc. – our friends who just got married put a lot of those on their registry, marble is so pretty and timeless that I think something for the kitchen made of white marble would be really special.
I would avoid buying extras of things she already registered for – she may not have storage space or really see the use for extras. (Do she and her FI entertain a lot? IF not they may not want extra sets of dishware, stemware, etc.)
Post # 10
Since her registry is fullfilled, I would actually recommend a gift card to another store. Sometimes one store doesn’t have something that another does.
There are also gifts like date-night stuff.
Post # 11
I want to give a tangible gift, as I mentioned, so a gift certificate is out.
I like the idea of knives – I don’t think she has a very good set. My other idea was a panini press, as she got it for us as a housewarming gift a few years back (and she’s pescetarian, so there’s lots of yummy sandwiches she could make).
Post # 12
Gift card to the store she’s registered at, or something else from the store that matches her patterns!
Post # 13
@Mrs. Wallaby: They do drink wine – a lot actually (she never did much before meeting him, but he’s completely converted her) – but another friend warned me they received *a lot* of wine themed engagement presents, so suggested I stay away from say, a set of Reidel glasses as they got some of that already. A cheese board is a good idea though, they have two cheese knives on their registry already.
ETA: Never mind on cheese board, she has a few slate boards already, which are cheese boards.
Post # 14
Do you know where they are going on their honeymoon? If you do, maybe calling ahead to the hotel and adding on a couples massage to their room, or paying ahead for some kind of excursion they might go on…or something nice like that?
I tend to give a cheque/cash as a wedding gift – but if I get a gift for a shower I usually buy one or two things from the registry and then add to it to create some sort of theme. I know wine/wineglasses are out based on your previous comments, but maybe they have a coffee maker or something like that on the registry that’s been purchased? You could make up a basket of yummy gourmet coffees and treats and maybe a fancy coffee recipe book to go along with it. Or if say they had a Keurig or Tassimo on their registry, you could stock them up with accessories for it.
Post # 15
While looking at her registry, see if there are any ‘themes’, color patterns, etc that she’s stocking her house in, then try to find something decorative (serving platter, picture frame, vase) that you think might match that. Its tangible, and you tried to make it something to her decor tastes, but include a gift reciept so she can return it if she doesn’t want to keep it.
On that note, you could also look for extra pieces to her china/dinner sets. Cream/sugar servers, tea pot, butter dish, those kind of things.
Post # 16
@kay01: does the registry show what has already been purchased? I would look at dishes and such which had already been fulfilled and either get a complimentary serving piece or and extra one. I know I have a full corningwear set but would love a second of the medium deep size but would have felt odd and a little grabby registering for an extra.