Friends Spouse Suddenly Dies!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsFrog2Be:  i am sprry tp hear about your friends wife. 

But regarding the “waiting” just bc he hasnt put a ring on it doesnt mean he loves you any less

 

Post # 3
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567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

How long have you been with your SO?

Post # 4
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502 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s quite a leap to use a tragedy to support your individual belief that you deserve to be proposed to.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry your friend lost his wife. It’s great that he has a friend like you there to support him when he needs it. I’ll be praying for him. 

This is a good reminder. A lot of people forget that we don’t live forever, and that it isn’t always wise or worth it to wait for someone to come around to the idea of marriage or wait for them to finally propose, plan the wedding, and seal the deal if they have said that they want marriage but are dragging their feet. Sometimes you have to choose the life you want over the person you’re with. It’s difficult, but oftentimes, in order to be content with life, it’s necessary.

Thanks for the post.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

This is so sad!  I’m truly sorry for your friend – but do agree with other bees – I was with my FI six years before we even discussed marriage… and I would be spending my life with him whether or not he’d ever put a ring on it.  But am sorry you’re having these feelings about your own relationship – that’s never easy.  I’d say if you’re in love, be in love and be happy – a ring shouldn’t make or break it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsFrog2Be:  I think you had two thoughts that were connected but you had a hard time explaining how and thus, people worried that you were making your friend’s tragedy about you. For what it’s worth, I don’t think that’s what you were trying to do. I am sure you care deeply about your friend and would take away his pain in a heartbeat if you could. Sometimes in life things happen that make us realize were have a finite amount of time on Earth and many things left that we want to do. And we realize that we are not on the trajectory we need to be on in order for those things to happen. It makes us think about what we really want and what we will ultimately leave behind. Is that kind of what you’re feeling? 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

… Or, you could look at it an alternative way and from a more positive perspective and say, “life can be cut short, so let me enjoy TODAY with the man I love and quit worrying so much about the future”. 

Just a thought. 

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