(Closed) Friends that get married before you

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Nope. You’re under no obligation to invite them.

Post # 4
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Definitely not. There isn’t really any rule that says you have to invite people whose wedding you have attended!

Post # 5
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No, it is great that they were able to invite you to theirs, but you are not obligated to invite them to yours…especially considering you are having a small wedding.

Post # 6
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You’re definitely not obligated. I’m sure it’d be a nice gesture & they’d be honored, but since it’s a small Out of Town wedding, they should understand completely!

Post # 7
1696 posts
Bumble bee

Real old-fashioned etiquette says, that if they invited you to their wedding and their wedding included a dinner, then you should reciprocate –>by inviting them to dinner<–. If their wedding didn’t include dinner, then you reciprocate by inviting them to something else, like a party, a picnic, or over for afternoon tea. Real old-fashioned etiquette also says that you should have sent them a thank-you note one or two days afterward, thanking them for the lovely party.

If you do that, your bases are covered. You have no further obligation when your own wedding comes around, anyway, as your wedding is a completely separate event.

And, even if you didn’t do that, very few people care about real old-fashioned etiquette anyway.

Post # 8
3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

it depends on how close you are to them. i would only invite the ppl who mean the most to you.

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