(Closed) Friends told that they could not kiss during ceremony

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve never heard of that and I was raised Catholic, but if someone told me that I wasn’t allowed to kiss my husband after we’re married in front of our family and friends I’d give them the bird.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

There was a bee on here who posted recap pix and mentioned the same sort of thing. I’ve never heard of it before. Seems totally weird to me. As for your friend…if they can get married by the priest, why can’t they kiss (regardless of conversions)? That really seems strange. He’s ok with marrying them, but they couldn’t seal the deal?

I’d kiss them anyway, or just not have that person officate/use that venue.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

That’s really messed up! The kiss is an integral part of the ceremony! Besides, it’s a little hypocritical of the priest or whomever to set up these kinds of rules. By marrying a couple, you’re basically signing off on them having sex forever, so why would you say no kissing?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s not really a Catholic tradition to do the kiss thing at the end. More of an American tradition. However I don’t see why they’re not allowed to do it. FI and I are doing it and we’re having a catholic wedding mass.

When I first read your post I thought the priest was being super conservative/traditional… but as I reread I stood corrected. As for that situation.. that is a BS reason he gave for not allowing the kiss. If he felt that way why was he marrying them? Anywho I’m glad he did it anyways and I hate it when there are grumpy priests like that.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Did he mention prior to the wedding date about no kissing? If so I would have NEVER used him and if NOT I woulda kissed anyways! Thats crazy to me

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I went to a mass wedding where the vows were down midway, rings and all, followed by more mass and then a kiss at the end.  WEird

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MASPA:  That’s how its normally done in the catholic church. They don’t want people smooching in the middle of mass out of respect and for the fact that the whole line ‘I now pronounce you husband and wife’ and the kissing part is NOT part of the MAss. So at the end that’s when they do the kiss. Or at least every Catholic wedding I’ve been to.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Woodstock:  ive been to masses that did otherwise.  man they cannot keep it consistent,

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MASPA:  were they full masses? Probably not. They do the vows at the end if they’re not doing a full mass with communion. The reason they do the vows BEFORE communion (in a full mass) is because it is suposed to be the first act together as husband and wife. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Prince William and Kate did not kiss after their ceremony.  The balcony was actually the first “seen” kiss =)

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My first wedding was to a Catholic, in a Catholic church.  The priest told us that he wasn’t going to say “you may now kiss” as it’s not part of their ceremony, but that we were free to kiss if we wanted once he announced us as married.

He also said “who am I to tell you you can kiss your wife?”  He was a pretty cool priest actually.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My sister had an orthodoc Jewish ceremony (although she is not orthodox). The rabbi told her that they could not kiss. I can’t remember if they did or not. They either did right when it ended or at the other end of the aisle before exiting the room.

Orthodox Jews aren’t allowed to touch each other until they are married. And even then, it is more of a private thing. Typically after a Jewish ceremony, the bride and groom go in a private room for “yichud” which mean togetherness. That’s usually when they have their first kiss, or their first, hmmmm…

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@GFerg:  Yeah, I was going to reply because I think I’d seen her pics. They showed the bride and groom sharing a kiss outside the church.

I would have kissed inside anyways. I’m sure I’ve done something worse than that to offend God. So what difference does it make? 

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