Friends want to use our wedding photo for her website

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2666 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I understand why you think it’s weird. It *is* a little weird. For the sake of her potential future clients, I think she’d be best served by complete honesty, and the reality is that people looking at her website are going to think the photos there are of weddings she has coordinated, and that’s not accurate. What is she going to say if a client points at one of those photos and says, “So tell me about their wedding, what was it like?” She’s going to have to lie by omission and describe your wedding without admitting that she didn’t have anything to do with coordinating it, OR be honest and say that it’s just a photo of her friends but that she didn’t plan their wedding, and either way she ends up looking bad.

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Post # 3
705 posts
Busy bee

As someone who uses wedding photos to show my work, I would not use someone’s work or photo I was not involved with. That’s odd to me and my personal feelings I wouldn’t be ok with that. 

Post # 4
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s a little weird, but if she doesn’t have a lot of photos to use, she will probably just end up using stock photos anyway (Which plenty of websites do). If you aren’t comfortable with it, don’t feel like you have to say yes, but I don’t think it’s the biggest deal.

Post # 5
7113 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

She’s obviously trying to make it look like she worked your wedding. This is unfair to your coordinator and it’s false advertising to clients. You’d be amazed where I’ve found pictures of my work, and even my face once used to sell cosmetics I have nothing to do with. This is unscrupulous. 

Tell your friend you’re sorry, but your wedding pictures aren’t meant for commerce and direct her to cheap stock photos online That she can use. 


Ps it amazes me that people will say this is no big deal. Wait till it’s your work someone is using to sell services that compete with yours. Not cool. 

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Post # 6
1193 posts
Bumble bee

I think it could mislead people into thinking she coordinated your wedding. Maybe blame it on your photographer’s contract? Many write lines into their contracts stating their work can’t be used in a promotional/commerical fashion without their written consent.

Post # 7
1924 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t have a problem with this.  She probably just wants random wedding photos to start with – if she doesn’t use yours she might use xyz photos she purchased from Getty images or somewhere else.  As long as she doesn’t misrepresent and say she coordinated your wedding, and if you have rights to them from your photog, I would let her use them.

Post # 8
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Thats absolutely not acceptable. Why dont you ask your planner/coordinator and see what they say….

Post # 9
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hidden Acres

I have to agree with all the other posters, it’s not her work, so she’d be starting off a relationship with any potential clients with dishonesty. Not a good choice in my book. If I was a potential client and found out she’d posted work that wasn’t hers, I’d find another planer with a quickness! I agree with your decision to tell her no, I’d do the same thing in your shoes. If she’s a real friend and she’s confident in her own ability to get clients, she wouldn’t even be considering asking you that kind of question.

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