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His actions sound very inconsiderate. Then again, he also sounds very drunk.
Is one of his friends going to make sure that he gets home safely?
everyone behaves badly when they are drunk.. wait till he is sober and talk to him.. make sure he understands how you feel.. but you shouldn't lock him out of his own house..
unless this is something that happens often, put it in the past after you talk and move forward
How are things looking now that the sun is up?
I think you have every right to be upset. Maybe the locking out wasn't such a great idea (mostly because he might not remember why he's being locked out)... but I'd definitely talk to him about it. Please post an update! We hope the both of you are o.k.
the sun is up, i got about 30 min of sleep last night, i was up all night worrying about him. i called him and apologized for locking him out. i was drinking a bit too so that was my drunk move. i've called him about 3 times already trying to find out where he is and if he needs a ride home. no response, my guess is he's passed out on someone's couch or floor but that still worries me. i know my actions were a bit harsh but i think he needed to have his butt virtually kicked.
i don't particularily like the people he went out with, another reason why i didn't go out with him. but the biggest reason is we were having 2 of our friends stay with us and thye're not the type to stay up too late. so i was being the 'hostess with the mostess' when i came home with them last night. now they just left, they live about 4 hours from here so we won't see them for close to a year and and FH didn't even say goodbye to them. i think that's the part that hurts the most.
I know it's just words but Don't say you "hate" your fiance. He was drunk - no excuse - but still... it could have been worse. I would wait until he is home, a little well-rested and then talk to him.
As long as he doesn't do this regularly I think it can be written off. He wanted you with him, not to go running rampant by himself :)
A couple of thoughts here:
1) I hope you weren't drinking and driving
2) Not everyone acts like this when they are drunk. This sounds like it is escalated into something very bad. I'm glad it didn't turn violent.
Let me ask, does this happen every time you guys drink? I'd worry about some alcohol related issues.
I hope you are doing ok, and that after some cooling off you are able to talk about this and come to some understanding going forward.
Yikes, it's true alcohol can really bring out the worst in people. Obviously you two will have to talk whenever he gets home. Let's see if he even remembers anything... lets us know how it goes.
Everything GaBGal said sums up what I was thinking. Hate is a very strong word, I know he pissed you off but, you don't go throwing around the word hate on someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with, however you did state you had been drinking too. People say and do things when they drink that they don't mean, I've been there, done that.
If a guy did that to me... He would be gone!! Breaking up! If he is going to do that to you, even when he is drunk, you don't need it. Already I can tell it will end in divorce. And you don't need the heart-ake!
Just go with your gut. Be VERY picky who you date, and especially marry! You are going to have to put up with the guy the rest of your life! Do you really want that??
IDK, But I have very high standards. You need to watch for the sings. Don't over look anything! There are PLENTY of guy out there!!
ok update time:
this doesn't happen at all. this was a one time deal. i was not drinking and driving one of the people who stayed at our house volunteered to drive.
FH came home at 11 and was happy go lucky! and he had 2 of his buddies with him. we all went out to lunch about 30 min from our house and took 2 cars so FH and i could talk. he didn't even realize that leaving me and not coming back hurt me at all. he was like...really? yea...so now he's like ok just now we know we need to communicate more. i almost screamed! ack so frustrating.
but now we're better, thanks for all the advice bees.
and p.s. i don't hate him, i was just VERY mad at him last night
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so a while ago i posted this to figure out what i was going to wear to this wedding that was today. i wore the polka dot dress, i think i looked gorgeous. my FH was acting kinda weird all night but i didn't want to say anything bc we were at a wedding where i didn't exactly know the bride and groom (his friends) or anyone else for that matter, just the friends we were with.
after the wedding (about an hour ago) my friend (in the same boat as me) were waiting in the car for our FH to say goodbye to everybody. her FH came out then about 5 min later came my FH. he was completely drunk by this point. he got sidetracked by some friends outside and started talking to them. so i volunteered to go and pull him to the car, gently, NOT stealing him away from his friends.
he was extremely rude to me in front of his friends first of all, which he never is. then i tried telling him what we were doing and he's like i don't want to do that. we were going to get some food at mcdonald's and go to bed, we were all exhausted. then he's like well they're all going to the bars. so he decided he wanted to go and wanted to drag me w/ him. i said no, we were having guests (other ppl we were with) stay with us this weekend to save on motel costs.
he got even more mad at me so i told him to give me the house keys and my wallet. he practically threw the keys at me, told me to kiss him, which i REFUSED to do.
when i got home i texted him and said to stay at someone elses house because i am not going to go get him and if he calls i'm not letting him in the house.
i'm sorry, just needed to vent, he pissed me off so much tonight! was i out of line? honest answers please!