Post # 1
So, there is this woman I know. I met her through my husband. She used to be the wife of a friend of his, and close to another mutual friend of ours. However, she divorced his friend, and no longer speaks with our other mutual friend. We have no other mutual friends, and she lives in a completely different part of the state. We have only spent time together twice. We never talk. Except when I comment on her (IMO) ridiculous political-y posts. We just are on completely different pages, in general. I fail to see why I need to keep a connection with someone I don’t have anything in common with. I have grown tired of it, and decided to delete her as a connection on the social networking site we both use. I didn’t even think she would notice. But less than 24 hours later she emailed me asking when and why I did this. I’m really not sure what to say. Or if I should even respond back?
Post # 3
@iloverocks: I probably wouldn’t response to be honest. If I did I’d just say that I did a clean out of my social networking site friends list in general to limit it only to people I have regular contact with, nothing personal.
Bit scary that she noticed within 24 hours!
Post # 4
“I like to keep my friends list to actual friends. We’ve lost all contact since your divorce from X. It’s nothing personal, but I don’t see the point in sharing personal information when we don’t know each other in real life.”
Post # 5
Yeah, I am a little surprised she noticed so quickly. I’ve thought about responding saying we just don’t have that much in common, but I dunno. I am still on the fence about just not saying anything at all. I am not exactly the most polite person in the world, as I am usually pretty forward, but I just don’t feel like opening up that can of worms with her. I don’t want to attack her personally, and I’m afraid it will come to that if I respond in any way. There isn’t any good outcome if I respond, right? I doubt she is going to change in any way if I say anything. It would be more polite of me to just not respond, right?
Post # 6
I probably wouldn’t even respond. No matter what you say she’ll be offended. I would just leave it. I think it’s sort of childish for a grown woman to message you questioning why you deleted her as a friend.. I don’t know it just sounds like something a high schooler would do, haha.
Post # 7
Personally I would just simply say that you just realized that you two have nothing in common. I realize that she’ll react probably upset to it but honestly any action (even saying nothing) will have her reacting upset. With that being said if she did get upset I would instantly block her. The thinkg about not saying anything is that she’ll just think your ignoring her.
Post # 8
Oh yuck. The chances of you running into her again sound very slim – I would just ignore the message. Probably not the correct thing to do, but she sounds a little “off” to me!
Post # 9
Uhm… this is Facebook. Not real life!
I think it’s weird when people take Facebook things personally (not you… but who keeps track of who unfriends them!?!)
Just delete the message and ignore her… she’ll get the hint.
Post # 10
There isn’t any good outcome if I respond, right? I doubt she is going to change in any way if I say anything. It would be more polite of me to just not respond, right?
@iloverocks: It sounds like you’ve already made your mind up on the matter.
Post # 11
Just ignore her or tell her you downsized on your friend list. I downsized my friends list to only those who I have cell numbers for and actually remember who I am when I am texting them. I’m considering making my Facebook friends from semi intimate (which it is after I deleted all my other Facebook friends who I don’t text) to intimate Facebook friends list who are family and friends that hang out with me and make time for me when I see them.
Post # 12
@iloverocks: Just leave it alone. You don’t want to be friends with her, so there’s really no point in discussing it.
Post # 13
If you’ve only spent time together twice, you’re not friends. You’re barely acquaintances. You could point out that you two haven’t stayed connected, but I don’t see the harm in not responding, either. I just removed about 30 people from my FB, and I sincerely doubt they noticed at all. That’s the way FB works.