Post # 1
Should I be flattered … my SO finishes so quick …. It’s the best sex I’ve ever had but still I never get to finish and we have been together for a while …every once in a while I get him to last long but as soon as we get busy and dont do it as often it’s the same old thing he gets all the pleasure and then I need to start switching things around and make sure I get taken care of first … Ugh then he laughs at me because he knows I’m mad and just wanna get back into bed .. He’s so evil ..
Post # 3
Talk to him about it..COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE & COMMUNICATE….lol…. This is KEY. Let him know how you feel and come up with ways to either prolong him climaxing and/or please you first and then reciprocate the favor.
Post # 4
Dude…I woulda blacked both his eyes by now. That’s bad bedroom form there, and I’m not blaming him for being quick on the draw, some guys are like that and there’s nothing to be done, but if you haven’t gotten your cookies, homeboy better be ready to take care of you some other way, it’s just not over until then!
Post # 5
My Fiance and I used to have that problem, and ever since I let him know, he ALWAYS makes sure I go first. In some instances, he waits for me and we go together and it is *magic*.
So like PPs (tee hee) have said, communication is key, girl! You either need to step up and tell him so that he fixes the situation, or be proactive about it! Find some KY jelly that is for female pleasure, or ask him to do some things you like to get you on your way to the big O.
Hope that helps!
Get it gurl 😉
Post # 6
We communicate very well and he knows and he apologizes .. He tries to hang in there.. It doesn’t help that we don’t do it regularly so its like starting over everytime .. But I do need to start making sure I get mine first ! There’s also a lot less foreplay going on we need to get back on that .. Pronto
Post # 7
You should be going first then! That’s what my SO and I do. If not, you need to go two rounds. So he can go really fast the first time like normal, then by the second round he should be able to last long enough so you can go too since he won’t be as sensitive.
But you need to say something!
Post # 8
If he finishes first then he should man up and reciprocate until you do. Or he should take care of you, first, and then get his. What he’s doing is unacceptable! I have the O every time – otherwise I’d be one pissed off woman and that man wouldn’t get any sleep whatsoever until he took care of business. Fair is fair.
Post # 9
A friend of mine went through something like this. Great communication, everything else was fine he just got too excited. She would prolong foreplay for him, so he would finish before they got started. Once the first one was out of the way, he could last much longer. They’ve been together over 10 years, have a toddler, and are as happy as ever…although I think it got better as time went on too.
Post # 10
He gets so worried if he goes twice he thinks im more likely to get pregnant .. And that is not on the list of things to do especially right now .. and I’m not on the pill .. And when I do try and get him to finish me in other ways he pulls the “I’m tired” card if I fuss enough he’ll do it but he is being a bit selfish -_- my ex would say the same thing only he was totally shitty in bed and I did all the work ..now I’m in the same boat but the sex is good but I still get the short end of the stick !
Post # 11
I’ll echo what PPs have said, and that is he should look after you first if he knows he can’t last long. Definitely communicate and find a happy medium. Maybe he can’t handle much foreplay, so he’s a little to primed when the action starts. Or as a PP said, maybe he can finish during foreplay and then concentrate on you. But let him know what he’s doing now certainly isn’t cool. If he continues to laugh at you for being frustrated , I’d pull out a vibrator next time and go “No way honey, you’re not touching me until I finish…”
Post # 12
Are you on some kind of bc? I think you are more likely to get pregnant if he comes twice, but maybe not twice as much. Either way, that’s a silly reason for him not to help you finish. There are plenty of ways to finish/have an enjoyable time besides penetration. Do some experimenting with the things that work best for you guys!
Post # 13
Have him take care of you first so you will not have the feelings you are having after sex. He has to know this cant continue if this is going to be a long term relationship. He has to put you first and make sure your needs are met then be concerned with his needs.
Post # 14
He laughs at you b/c he’s a selfish hog who only takes and won’t help you finish?! Whoa, he would not be MY SO any longer…
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
@red_rose: Its the laughing that would get to me also. The few times I havent finished my Fiance feels bad. Laughing shows that it is funny to him. Doubt this is a joke to OP!
Post # 16
Yikes. How is it the best sex ever if you don’t get to finish… ever? Part of the reason why I love my husband so much is because he is completely unselfish in the boudoir. If I’m not happy, he’s not happy. Laughing at you because you’re unsatisfied is incredibly selfish. I have to agree with joy2011. Knowing what I know now about how things CAN be? That’d be a red flag and he wouldn’t be my SO any longer either. If you are going to stick it out, do what everyone else has already said. Talk to him.