- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’ve never started a thread before, but I enjoy all your interesting perspectives. It’s so nice to have a place where I don’t feel self-indulgent or self-conscious. It took me a long time to find The One, and I’m no bridezilla but darnit: I want to shout to the universe every single day how much I love FI, how it’s actually happening … to me … I GET to marry my best friend. So glad there is a place where I don’t have to censor that, not to mention one that saves me from becoming that girl who debates the merits of ivory v. champagne v. cream with people IRL 😉
So, in honor of my ring journey coming to an end this week, thought I’d get out of my usual comfort zone and post about it.
FI proposed last Fall while we were on vacation, and his proposal could not have been more romantic. He had chosen a beautiful, ideal-cut round brilliant and sought my input on settings. We put many months into designing, tweaking, and waiting for a custom platinum setting, inspired by elements from a few different Tacori’s and antique pieces. The ring was beautiful (and I was grateful for it and what it represented, no matter what), but unfortunately the design did not turn out as planned despite multiple CADs and waxes. In the interest of positivity, I will omit the ensuing, gut-wrenching conflict with that jeweler, who refused to remedy.
Fast forward to our ultimate decision to keep the stone FI proposed with but start over with a new jeweler and completely new setting. We decided to move away from the vintage inspiration for the previous ring and go with something more traditional, which is most true to my style anyway and gave us a much-needed sense of fresh start. After another long month in limbo, my new ring arrived this weekend and we couldn’t be more thrilled. FI is the kindest-hearted, most thoughtful man I’ve ever met, and just wanted me to be happy despite the financial loss on the first setting. He makes me a better person and has taught me the meaning of sacrificial love. I am a lucky girl! It seems like just yesterday that I felt so done with the dating scene and did not think he was out there. Surreal …
Now, when we look at the ring on my finger — instead of being reminded of the stress surrounding the previous situation — we both feel joy, the promise of our future, and the significance of our commitment, which is how it’s supposed to be!
As far as the ring itself, it’s like being newly engaged all over again and I keep catching myself looking at it, feeling like a silly school girl with a crush on FI 🙂 My round 2 ct. is now in a platinum, shared-prong Martin Flyer setting (cathedral style) – with ten hearts & arrows diamonds down the shoulders (0.1 ct each). The matching band will have eleven 0.1’s in it, and sit flush (which was important to me), thanks to the FlyerFit construction. Two of the side stones in the w-band will be from my parents’ wedding set, which means the world to me because they had a wonderful marriage that is a model for us. It is also special since my father, with whom I was extremely close, passed away suddenly. He purchased the diamonds in his home country of origin so they represent not only a piece of him and of my parents’ marriage, but also my heritage. So that’s our ring odyssey, and here she is!