Post # 1
As you become a newlywed and begin moving into the nesting phase do start feeling, especially with the way our economy is, any post wedding guilt for spending so much money on your wedding and now you’ve decreased the size of the down payment for your house? Do you now wish you had a smaller, less expensive wedding?
Post # 3
We spent too much on our wedding, but I wouldn’t go as far as saying, "I would spend MUCH less on my wedding." I would say, if I could do it again, I would have spent less. It was unfortunate that I didn’t find Weddingbee and Project Wedding until after a lot of planning was completed. I was proposed to on Christmas Day and got married at the end of May, so the time constraints played a huge part. I was just clueless on how to plan a wedding, I know so much more now.
Post # 4
I’m not there yet, but already wishing to be in the nesting phase..geez it will be wonderful when we’re all under one roof. When my move is complete. When we can just relax and wake up next to each other.
I’ve somewhat learned from my prior life experience that I’m not going to spend an arm and a leg on our wedding, but will spend what’s appropriate for us to have a beautiful and elegant yet intimate wedding. We’re a teeny bit older too and will live in his home.
Post # 5
@Niki: I know what you mean. I could have spent less and probably had an even more fantastic wedding if I had found this site earlier. Like you, I know so much more now. Oh well, I just tell myself it’s another life experience I had to go through…afterall hindsight is 20/20.
@Belle: I like your attitude about not spending an arm and a leg, again why I wish I had found this site earlier to hear from people like you so I would have thought harder about what I was doing.
Post # 6
My hubby already had a house, before we were married, so that was already taken care of. But our wedding only cost about $5000 and we only paid about $3000 of that. So I think we did ok. I don’t know how we could have spent any less, but I’m glad we didn’t spend anymore since now we have to work on actually getting the house paid off!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
we’re pre-empting this by spending a VERY small amount on our wedding <1000 because our real goal is homeownership.
Post # 8
I wish we had saved more so that we wouldn’t still be struggling to pay off credit card debt. It does seem that now that the wedding is over house and babies are fast approaching- and I worry about never having enough money for those things.
However, we were very careful about having as as low a cost wedding as we could while still making it the event we wanted it to be. It was amazing and I really wouldn’t change anything.
Post # 9
I would have changed how much we spent on a few things, but that was due to now feeling like we over paid for what we got, not because we feel teh money should have gone towards a house. Because of the crappy economy, we are renting in a place we wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford, but we can’t afford to buy here. A fraction of a few million is a good deal – but still WAAYY out of our budget for buying!
Post # 10
We were a little over budget, but like the survey says….it only happens once! Thankfully, we came out of the event with no debt leftover.
Post # 11
I think if we were to do it over, we’d just have a smaller event and cut costs that way. We came out debt free, but left with no nest egg. We’ve been in scrimp and save mode for a year now to cover the wedding, so we’re just keeping that mindset to save for a bigger house!
Post # 12
Well, my FI and I don’t have debt. THe down payment on our house is taken care of and we’re chipping away at our mortgage….if we had ANY student debt, CC debt etc. Or if the wedding was our whole nest egg. It certainly isn’t. You bet your sweetness our wedding would be chopped back significantly if we weren’t financially stable. Not that I’m not being financially savvy and watching our dinero as it is, though. The one place we could have cut back is our venue and saved a chunk…but still. Only because we KNOW we are ok spending that amount. I have issues spending money when you’re in debt and have no nest egg. I could NEVER do it!
I think owning a home together is WAY more important!
Great post, sometimes hindsight is 20/20.
Post # 13
Seriously..one thing I consider to be an asset in being an encore is the fact i’ve "been there…done that". Otherwise I could totally see myself going waaaay overboard on spending.
Post # 14
Luckily, my FI already owns his house. And luckily, I love it and love the location. Even still, we are having a very small-budget wedding. We do not want to go into debt to get married. Plus, we’d like to save some money to do some minor (cosmetic) and major (make room for a couple of babies) home renovations.
I’m already nesting! I moved in about 7 months ago and
I’m we’re doing some changes to make it more of a home and less of a bachelor pad!