Post # 1
I am in the stage of waiting (ring is in the house, just waiting for the special proposal) and of course I’ve been looking at dresses online! So much fun! But here’s the problem.
I’m 47 years old. I figure we have about two years of planning and saving for the big day ahead of us. So, I will be 49-50 when we marry. I’m pretty sure that we will have an intimate wedding with about 30- 50 folks on the beach. (at least that’s what we’ve talked about). I’m 5 4 and 147 lbs pear shaped.
I love the flowy bohemian dresses ie Saja, Claire Pettibone etc. However, I’m wondering if a dress with “more structure” (boning etc to show my waist which is my best feature) is the norm for older brides, In my mind, I think if you are young and skinny these types of dresses would look good on you, but at my age and sorta out of shape…would I end up looking frumpy? I want to look my age, yet I want to be beautiful on that day.
Post # 3
I will be 44 by the time we are married and the way I see it is buy a dress that you love in whatever style and whatever colour that you love. Try some on if you’re not sure and you will fall for one that not only feels great but looks great too! Just FYI this is the dress I’m having made…it’s my favorite colour and I know the style looks great on me…can’t wait until it’s done even if I have to wait to wear it!
Post # 4
Thanks! I could never, ever pull off a dress like that! I think it’s awesome!
Post # 5
Try on some of the dresses that you mentioned and see how you feel. I went with Claire Pettibone (but am on the younger side), but have seen several pictures if older (30s and 40s) women wearing her dresses and looking absolutely gorgeous. I think it really depends on which dress, and more importantly, how you feel in it. If you feel good that confidence will really radiate…it made a huge difference when I was trying on gowns!
The same is true of trying on gowns with boning–if ithey give you the shape you like then that comfort alone may be worth it. Keep us posted on the search and good luck!
Also, congrats 🙂
Post # 6
I’m 28 and the flowy dresses looked awful on me so I don’t think there’s an age limit, lol. Just go with what you feel beautiful in. I definitely needed some boning/support to look my best.
Post # 7
I am wearing a Nataya dress, with a Victorian tea hat and victorian lace boots. I will be 55 the day after the wedding!
Post # 8
I was dress shopping at 47 too. You really do need to try the various shapes on – some I thought would be flattering on me made me look pretty dumpy and some others that I got talked into trying looked amazing on. I love flowy ones too but ended up with a snug ruched a-line! Have fun shopping and post the one you say YES to!
Post # 9
I don’t think you have to worry about it. Wear what you feel the most beautiful in… I know when we get to our age, we start worrying about whether we’re dressing too young for our age, but wedding dresses are the exception to that…
This is what I wore when I got married, and I was 45 and 30 pounds over-weight.
Post # 10
@loribeth…you look beautiful!
Post # 12
I’ll be 54 when my day comes and yes, I too had major dress anxiety. But, I ended up buying something that I felt like a “bride” in, and that’s what matters. I wish I was thinner, but I’m not and that’s reality. See below:
Post # 13
I think that Claire Pettibone dresses are fine on a pear shape, and as long as you wear shapewear under the dress, you should be fine (some of the fabric she uses tends to cling to curves)
Post # 14
Try on alot of different dresses, you may think you want something… Like i was SURE THIS was the dress I wanted, it was my dream dress (I’m 42 but will be 43 at the time of our Vow Renewal) So this was my dream dress… you can tell it was a MAJOR EPIC FAILURE… Juliette 3091. Turns out, I preferred something else, which is the second photo! That is 2be Kathy Ireland