Post # 1
Hi girls, just need to vent and grab some quick advice!
Obviously planning a weddng is stressful, but I’m three months away and for some reason everything I’ve planned, everything I’ve imagined for my wedding day has all of a sudden changed…not completely but I find myself saying, hey I’m going to throw them in gray tuxedos..then it turns into, oh now I’m adding gray to this and this and this, and oh green with my lapis…sometimes it seems like my ideas are just coming together, but then other times…its like WHAT AM I DOING, and I get frustrated and I CRY probably 10 times a day, and it takes a lot for me to cry! I guess I just feel so overwhelmed sometimes and I wonder, how many of you are like this? Now maybe I’m just at my breaking point now, because ever since we got engaged last feb. I’ve struggled with some people putting me down about the wedding and not being happy for me because they are older than me & not married yet. So I have been upset through this whole process over not having support from someone that should be the first to support me, but she cant put her jealousy aside & just be happy for me…and shes my maid of honor…yeah I know right? Its been a constant battle trying to get help with anything…Anyway, no more poor poor pitiful me…
Are any of yall just waaaaay stressed out? How far are you into your wedding planning?
Are you/did you feel like your wedding was having an identity crisis?
Post # 3
i have had those moments too, so i totally understand and its normal (i think?!). one thing i learned (partly from weddingbee) is that no one cares about your wedding as much as you do, but that OKAY! i didnt have as much excitement from people i had hoped/thought i would get. i had their excitement when i got engaged, which was nice. but i had those moments of telling people my vision/ideas and them giving me funny looks and basically making feel i was an idiot. so to deal, and i think you need to do the same, is just focus on what you want, don’t even run your ideas by other people that you know – thats what weddingbee is for!
also, take some breaks from wedding planning. you said you are three months out, but you are actually four! (i am three). you have time to take a weekend where you don;t think or say anything about the wedding. and also remember, that all these little things that stress you out are supposed to be fun! no need to get upset over colors and flowers. keep the big picture always in the front of your mind – you are marrying your FI! that is ALL that will be important for the rest of your life starting the day after your wedding,
another thing i focus on when i get stressed is this: i know that ON my actual wedding day, all these little details just will NOT be as important as they seem now! like when i am walking down the aisle, will i REALLY be thinking about whether the chairs had purple ties or chair covers? or whether there flower pots at the base of the arch??? i don’t think so!
Post # 4
Thank you so much! I just get down sometimes and overwhelmed & its good to hear encouragement from someone who KNOWS how stressful it can be..not someone that just says “oh it will be okay” just to say it to shut me up! You are very right…all that matters is that I will be walking down the aisle to my future:) Maybe a mini vacation is order!
Post # 5
oh and I’m an idiot…I have no clue why my wedding date says May, 17..but its the 7th..but I do have longer than 3 months..makes me feel better:)
Post # 6
sometimes it is good to close your planner and do something non wedding related. I think you can use a night relaxing instead.