Post # 1
Me and my Fiance have been together for almost 4 yrs. we recently have gotten engaged but honestly it wasnt what i was expecting. He has been to one to initiate anything about getting married other than just talking. one bad night when he came home soo trashed he couldnt even stand up straight he asked me and that has been the only time so i basically ignored it. later that weekHe posted it on facebook without me knowing so i was suprise but i dont rly know how to feel about it. he has told everyone but im frustrated cuz he doesnt ever wanna talk about it or getting married and when i bring it up he tells me im just being anxious and i need to calm down. we are supposed to be getting married in sept. I rly dont think he is rdy but by this point i think i will have a mental break down if it is called off again since he has changed the date probably 5 times. 🙁 what do i do. he keeps saying im being too emotional and being ridiculous. i rly need some advice here thanks
Post # 3
Aww, I’m sorry it’s not the way you thought it would be. Are you sure you want to marry someone who isn’t ready? Maybe it’s best if you get to the bottom of this before you walk down the aisle.
Post # 4
Hmmm, this one is pretty tough. First, he doesn’t want to talk about it? That seems strange to me. And he’s only proposed when he’s been trashed? I see that as a red flag. I think you ought to have an honest and open conversation about the engagement. Let him know how you are feeling and don’t let him tell you that you are just anxious. It seems like there isn’t much honest communication and that’s not the best way to enter into a marriage.
Maybe it would be best to push the wedding off a little bit until you’re able to have the conversation and really get down to the root of your feelings. I know you don’t want to change the date again but I feel like it’s more important to be on the same page with each other.
Maybe examine why you’re feeling the way you are before you try to talk with him. If he understands how important this is, he’ll put aside whatever reasons he has for not wanting to talk earlier. Marriage is a serious commitment and shouldn’t be made lightly. I hope this helps!
Post # 5
Are you sure you want to marry someone who thinks proposing while being trashed/intoxicated and not in a clear mind set is okay?
If you cannot sit down with him and talk about things I don’t think he is ready to get married and it sounds like he is stringing you a long.
Why did he change the date 5 times?