Post # 1
So about a month ago my boyfriend and I had some pretty big issues going on (not with our relationship, he had some intense personal stuff to deal with) and one night after a long supportive talk he let it slip that he wants to marry me.
I was thrilled. I had pretty much accepted the fact that he didn’t beleive in marriage and it wasn’t going to happen for us. Afterh e worked through his stuff he started acting more like himself, less emotional, etc. I was a little worried maybe he asked me to marry him because he was emotional.
He said that wasn’t the case at all and about 2 weeks ago we went out to look at rings. We both found a ring that we love, and our anniversary was last weekend. He hadn’t outright said it, but he had implied that the “official” proposal would be this weekend.
Well it didn’t happen. He’s never been overly romantic, so it is partly my own fault for having such high expectations and getting all excited for it. Has anyone else gone through something like this? I’m so frustrated and it honestly felt like getting punched in the gut.
I haven’t looked at any wedding things at all this week because I feel like its slow torture. Please tell me I’m not crazy 🙁
Post # 3
I haven’t, but maybe he just got really, really nervous! Do you know if he had the chance to buy the ring yet? Maybe it’s not ready from the jewelers…
Post # 4
He got paid last Friday…he spent the money on something else. It is something that needed to be taken care of, but could have easily waited another two weeks. I thought I was going to get the ring because he said:
“Looks like I have some decisions to make, our anniversary and Valentines day is next week and I know you’ll want a gift. I also have (xxxxx) that needs to be taken care of. If I put that off for a few weeks and use all of the money to get your ring instead of a gift I could get it for next weekend.”
To which I was like, “eff the gift! Ring ring ring!!” then Friday night we were heading to a friends and he said, “So I think I’m going to take care of (xxxxx) tomorrow.” and I wanted to rage. so. hard.
Post # 5
Oh boy! Well, could he have been fibbing? Totally possible. If not, I am sure he will pick it up with his next check. I’d be happy a non-marrying type is deciding to get married! That is exciting!
Post # 6
If he has been talking about it I’m sure it’s coming soon. He probably just wants to make sure it is a surprise. Proposing is a lot of pressure on a guy and I’m sure he just wants to make sure it is perfect for you! Try to be patient, it will come soon!
Post # 7
I understand how that’s frustrating for you. I’m sorry, hun. I’m hoping he’s just trying to throw you off so that the proposal is still a surprise. It’s also possible that he just wanted to get this other financial thing taken care of so he could really focus on getting you the ring that you want.
Post # 8
I am over the moon happy!! I really am. I just hate the waiting. He made me promise not to tell anyone until I had a ring. My mother is my best friend and it’s been killing me not to be able to tell her.
Being able to rant on here certainly is helping.
Post # 9
I feel your pain!
I am waiting until the ring for it to be official, it’s been over a year now and no one knows!haha!
But it isn’t my SOs fault he can’t afford the ring he wants to get me atm because he is out of work due to an injury so money is real tight, but I don’t mind waitng he’s worth it :]
…. but it is nice to rant sometimes haha!
Post # 10
Yes! We’ve been talking for 3 months now, and I’m very impatient about everything and have never been one to wait when I know I want something. And when we first started talking about it, he had said “If I knew what kind of ring you wanted, I’d propose right now!”. So of course I got all jazzed up about it. It’s turned into a money thing. The difference is he doesn’t have a problem telling other people about it, which is kind of bumming me out. He’s kind of already let it slip to his family, and a few of his friends. But all you can do is wait! I’m sure it’s coming very soon for you, though.
Post # 11
Can you talk to him about it and ask if his time line has changed?
Post # 12
@lilsweetie: Agree with that statement.
My current FI told me that he used to tell him mom that he never wanted to get married or have kids.
Give him some time to sort it out. 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t think the time line has changed too much, I think I just got a little excited prematurely.
When we talked about it over the weekend he still said soon, within a month or so. I just get so frustrated because he did make it seem like it was going to happen over the weekend.
But alas, I will try to be patient and as crazy free as possible. I’m not really bringing it up with him anymore because I don’t want to beat a dead horse.