- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I am completly frustrated and needed to vent…
I am getting married in August. I have 2 of my friends standing up with me. One friend leaves here local and the other “K” lives our west. When I asked her into the wedding I said I compltly undersatnd if she couldnt be in it beacuse of the distance and cost to get here let alone the added expense of being in a wedding… she wanted to be in it. I was so excited. We have been friends for 10 years and it meant a lot to me that regardless of the cost she was willing to be in it. So she was all excited for me and helped me search stuff online and was awesome… recently things have become different… she is very distant and is not helpful. She has decided she now cant come for the shower (whcih I was surprised she was going to come for anyways, so I wasnt upset she actually wasnt going to make it) but she still wanted to be apart of hte planning. she didnt step up and contact anyone and then was made when my mom (who is wonderful) and my other bridesmaid (who is awesome) planned my shower. She was all mad beacuse she didnt agree to the place etc. she is sending money to help with cost and wants a complete cost breakdwon of where her money is going etc. She has wanted to do the invitations from the beginning. now the shower is in a month adn she still hasnt done them and says shes so busy she prob wont get to them till this weekend. I just dont get what her change in total attitude has been. I know she is stressed with work but then why offer to do the invites if you dont have time to do it?
So last night she calls me and says that she doesnt want me to post pics tagging her or mention her name on facebook regarding the wedding. She said she has a nother friend that she was suppossed to come home for their wedding and beacuse of work cant make it adn she doesnt want her friend mad beacuse shes coming home for mine and not theres. I tried explaining she isnt choosing between the other friend and I. she isnt going to the other girls wedding beacuse of work. and that friend should understand that and not be upset and if the rolls were reversed id be sad she couldnt be htere but i wouldnt be mad if she attended someone elses wedding 3 months later. she said she is trying to be nice to the other person adn doesnt want her name or pictures online associates with her facebook. and I said its suppossed to be the best day of my life. I have asked my 2 closest friends I am not going to hide the day beacuse someone cant be understanding to you having a work commintiment. She tehn deleted her facebook page so no one knows shes coming home for the wedding.
She also let me know her dress came in. While hte bridesmaid that is here hasnt gotten hers in yet so I asked her to send me a pic of her in it beacuse I really wanted to see how the dress came out. and she said no she is to fat. I have never known her to be heavy in any way. Her dress is a size 4. So i told her Ive never known her to be fat and regardless I want to see the dress could she send me a picture and she flat out told me no..
I am hurt by her actions. My one bridesmaid here has been soooo amazing and I love her even more after dealing with the stress from my other bridesmaid. I am just so sad this is how my second bridesmaid is acting… its so not like her….. 🙁