(Closed) frustrated and angry with personal trainer (vent..sorry)

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe he’s just trying to make you mad and “motivate” you to do more. Usually  when someone says you aren’t working hard or you can’t do something it makes you work even harder. I think he’s just trying to get you to sprint to the end.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You are probably a little burnt out and he’s reading that in your personal sessions.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not saying that the trainer is right…but by your own words, you have been really pushing it for only 50% of the time that you have been seeing this personal trainer. Maybe this is why he feels as if you aren’t giving your best effort and spoke to you about it. I know for most personal trainers, it’s not just about the money, it’s about seeing the results in the people they are training. Maybe you aren’t where he expected you to be and he wanted to express that.

As camrie suggested…just use it as motivation to push that much harder to reach your goals.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not everyone responds the same to the same type of things – so maybe he’s just seeing what will motivate you more.

Perhaps you could tell him “Look I know you don’t think I’m trying, and I’m willing to work harder but I respond better to positive feedback rather than negative feedback”

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@meggyo: I understand exactly what you’re saying =) It could be that he didn’t want to cause you to further lose your motivation so he held his tongue. Now that you are motivated, he probably thought you could “handle” hearing it? In any case…I can completely understand how that would deflate your workout “high”.

Camrie has a good suggestion….just let him know that his approach isn’t working for you…and that it’s causing you to NOT want to push harder. At the end of the day…you are paying for a service and you want to be in the best position to take full benefit fromt hat service.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Meggyo, I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time with your personal trainer. Working out and being healthy is hard enough without people adding extra stress.

I have experienced that people will make their first impression and no matter what you do, it is really hard to change their initial opinion. So maybe when you weren’t working as hard, he got it in his head and now it’s hard for him to realize you’ve changed?

This happened with my sister a lot: she used to be really flaky in high school (making plans and then blowing them off without calling, etc.) and people developed that opinion of her. Now, years after high school, she has matured and isn’t really flaky anymore and she’s worked hard to break that habit. But people will still call her flaky without realizing that she’s not anymore, and it’s hard for her to hear because she has worked hard to change that about herself. And these are people she sees on a regular basis, so, like your trainer, they should have seen the change, but they just didn’t.

Like JamaicaBride said, you are paying this person for his service. If he doesn’t knock it off, can you just hire someone else who motivates you better? You shouldn’t feel like you have to prove something to your trainer. If you are giving 110%, that’s all anyone should ask of you!

And lastly, I would definitely put my foot down about him saying negative things to FH. FH probably does not want to hear it because he knows how hard you’ve been trying and it probably makes FH feel awkward. And your trainer should be talking to you only about issues that he’s having with you. Not gossiping to your freaking FIANCE behind your back! That’s out of line, imo.

Good luck! And keep up your good work!

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