(Closed) Frustrated Bride

posted 5 years ago in Pittsburgh
Post # 3
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am literally in the exact same boat as you. We also go engaged on thanksgiving and want to get married next thanksgiving.  We are living in akron but I’m from Pittsburgh.  My fiance is from Akron. So, half the guest list will be traveling. Although a hotel isn’t the wedding of my dreams – it seems to be a good option since hotels usually include a lot in their price and they don’t charge a rental fee.  Might be something to consider since you can’t cut down the guest list. 

Post # 4
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Your parents are entitled to their opinion, but they had their wedding. This one’s yours.

Post # 5
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That stinks that they changed their minds. Quite honestly, if your parents “gift” you the money then it is yours to do with what you please. But if they give you the money specifically for the wedding OR for a house then you should respect their decision and use the money for the cause. If you want to use your own money for your wedding then that is totally YOUR decision and you shouldn’t let their opinions deter you from that.

Unfortunately, accepting money from parents/relatives come with strings and them giving you money means they have a say in some decisions for what happens with that money. We found it easiest to save and use our own money for everything that WE want for our wedding.

Post # 6
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Also, what is your budget? Maybe some of us can come up with ideas that fit your budget/tastes!

Post # 7
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re having a hotel wedding, because the venues we wanted had minimums that were too large for our 85 person reception.  We’re getting great rates on the hotel, and it’s near the airport for all of the family flying in.  There’s a lot out there, but while I’d love to have the wedding at Phipps or the Priory, that’s just not how we wanted to spend our money.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Would your parents be willing to instead give you their suggested amount for the downpayment on the house, and they can call it a grand wedding gift?  I do feel like if you are wiling to pay for your wedding day then you deserve to get what you want.  Not many people know how much things cost now a days, but that being said, a lot of us have been budget brides on here so we may be able to help.  This board is a good resource for finding good deals.  I also recommend the Bridal Bargains book, and the budget savvy bride blog is helpful because it allows you to pick your budget and shows examples of real weddings in that budget and breaks everything down too.  Good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What about combining budgets?

We’re paying for the venue/catering (it’s all-in-one) and my mom is paying for “the rest” (photography, flowers, DJ, trolley).

I’ve found that parents (and even moreso grandparents) don’t know how much wedding costs have risen in recent years.

Post # 11
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tigerbana:  What area of the city are you looking for? While you might not be able to have your “dream” venue, there are plenty of venues in Pittsburgh where you can have a nice wedding in that price range. Check out the Mayernik Center in North Hills, banquet halls or even the Sheraton in Cranberry or the Airport Marriott.

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