Frustrated bridesmaid

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsBroker:  If she wants specific styles, she pays for the stylist. Otherwise the BM’s are free to do the best they can themselves.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you are DIY-ing it, do what you can successfully and comfortably. If she wanted you all to have the same hairstyle, she should have arranged for a stylists and either covered the cost or have given you plenty of time to anticipate the expense. The style you selected looks nice!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsBroker:  I would fight this tooth and nail: I have HUGE ears and do NOT wear my hair up, period.

If she’s paying for it, tell her YOU’LL pay for it if you can wear your hair how you feel most comfortable.

Just because it’s “the bride’s day” doesn’t mean her BMs comfort should go out the window. If I were having bridesmaids, I’d want them to feel gorgeous.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sorry, OP. That’s terrible! I would hate for my BMs to do something they felt uncomfortable about. BMs should feel beautiful, not stuck with a hairdo they hate because their bride is obsessed with everyone matching. Friends aren’t props.

Talk to your bride, and tell her everything you’ve said. If she won’t budge, then I guess either find a way to deal with it (head held high, not sulky) or bow out – though bowing out this close to the wedding, over a hairdo, would be unkind in turn.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just wear it the way you want honestly. That is a bit of a stuffy demand to make.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Agree Agree Agree.

I was in a wedding once where the bride changed her mind (hair up vs down) the DAY OF. (It was hot out).

No matter what – if she isn’t paying let her know what you are feeling – let her know that it will still be ‘up’ and won’t mess with her aesthetic – but that you need something you can do on your own.

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