Frustrated by this photographers unwillingness to negotiate

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would still dump your coordinator.  She’s costing you a boatload of money ( and not just with her fees)  and it doesn’t seem like you really need her.

Post # 4
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you have already signed a contract and paid a deposit, I think the photographer is generous in offering to give you any discount now.  All the contracts we have signed have clearly stated the negotiated price and do not offer any way to discount after the contract is signed.  

If you feel the coordinator is going over budget, I’d talk with her about your concerns and look for ways to cut things that haven’t already been contracted.

Post # 5
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if you already signed a contract guaranteeing your photog a certain price point for your date, it’s actually wrong of you to go in and try to re-negotiate after the fact. You not understanding your budget restraints going in is your fault…not their’s. It sounds like you didn’t do your homework and now you’re locked in and frustrated? If you were to walk away from the contract and find a totally different photog, how much would you lose?

Post # 6
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MUAbride2be:  Have you tried bringing this up with the photographer directly? Just casually mention that you noticed that his engagement session normally costs $500, and you’re foregoing that AND two hours of shooting so you’re confused as to why the price difference is not more. 

If he/she cannot give you a reasonable explanation then I would look elsewhere. It also screams red flag. Wedding coordinators are all about helping their friends out, sure, but they’re also supposed to be helping their client and if she is trying to tell you that this si how it is when she knows your budget, it’s pretty shady of her to do so. Making a client go over budget just to help out a friend is pretty nasty of her.


It sounds like you have a pretty good grip on things, why don’t you eliminate her from the picture and just search for someone on your own? Save yourself lots of money so you CAN spend more on a trustworthy photographer and have control over your own money so you don’t get led astray again. 




Post # 7
3841 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t know where you are located but the photographers fee seems out of line.  Your wedding planner seems to have led you astray and way over budget.   If you can absorb the cost invested (deposit) already I’d dump both and start over.  

Post # 8
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Is this the same coordinator that referred you to a caterer that cost $14k, the $3k venue the $2k DJ for 100 guests? It is very generous of your photographer to negotiate with you after-the-fact and I agree with the other PP that say you should dump the coordinator. You seemed more worried about the budget than she does. In one of your previous posts you said you gave her a budget of $25k for 100 guests and with her “referrals” you’ve broken the high point of your budget. 

Many of the coordinators in my neck of the woods give fabulous referrals, charge fabulous rates and end up getting a kick-back from the vendors to which they are referring. Food for thought.

Post # 10
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Mrs Darling:  This. Planners/co-ordinators get kickbacks from vendors. It is in their own interest to steer you towards vendors to whom they get kickbacks from and who cahrge more = bigger kickback. the same way that bridal stores show you more expensive dresses even when they know your budget.

At the end of the day it is no ones fault but your own. Your coordinator did not force you to sign any contracts with vendors that was all your choice. As her boss/employer it was up to you to double check she was staying within your budget.

I would read the contract that you signed with your coordinator and see if there is an escape clause. If there is I would terminate her services immediately. If there is not then I would have a talk with her about how you can pull together the rest of your wedding without breaking any of your existing contracts.

I would also personally call your vendors and tell them that due to unforeseen circumstances you need to reduce your budget and ask if they are willing to renegotiate their contracts with you.

Good luck

Post # 11
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would be more upset with the coordinator than the photographer. Photographers work hard. And an engagement shoot really is nothing compared to shooting a wedding – unfortunately, since you signed a contract it is a little tough to change anything. It is actually generous  that he brought the price down… a lot of other photographers would have said, “you don’t want an engagement shoot? Fine… but you signed a contract to pay me x amount”. This is their money to live.

And you know all of that. It seems like you realize that your coordinator is more of the problem. Maybe just have an honest talk with her and say “hey, I know that you get a benefit from working with some people but you need to understand that you tried to push us out of our budget and we don’t appreciate that and we would like you to help us take care of this issue.” You may not need to fire her just yet, but sometimes coordinators will push you for what they can get you to do because they need to make money as well 🙂

I’m sure she will be understanding. Don’t sweat it!

Post # 12
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

our videographer actually has a language in the contract saying that in no way we can down size once the contract is signed.. however we can always upgrade the service up unitl the wedding..

so in  this case I see it as bit of a discount is better than none..


Post # 13
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t think $400 off is insulting. You already signed a contract. How would you feel if you were trying to make ends meet as a photographer and your clients tried to haggle with you after they agreed to your pricing?

I realize weddings can be stressful and expensive, but all this is optional, and you did agree to the photographer’s pricing initially, right?

Post # 14
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Something is going to have to give here. In your last posts it sounded like you were going to let her go, at the very least I think you should let her know you no  longer need her help, but would like to have her be your day of corrdinator. Or find someone completely different to do the set-up.

You have plenty of time to reign things in, but you need to do it or your budget is going to be out the window.

Post # 15
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MUAbride2be:  We have also found that subtracting items from packages (pre-contract) tends to yield a lower discount than the listed prices of those items a-la-carte.  It kind of makes sense–the photographer’s costs don’t necessarily vary linearly with the number of hours that they shoot.

Post # 16
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you give us a line-by-line of your budget? Then we can help more.

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