Post # 1
This thread is an update to a thread I started a few weeks ago;
i wanted to thank each and everyone one of you for your help and assistance. It was incredibly uplifting to see so many people who were concerned for me.
l ended driving to see fiancé and we had a long argument. After about 30 hours of talk and crying, my fiancé decided to formally end our engagement and our wedding was called off, 1 week prior to our wedding.
I cannot tell you how hurt and emotionally exhausted I am. I had to break the news to my family and it was humiliating, absolutely humiliating.
My Dad settled accounts with vendors, 1 or 2 were excellent and didnt take final payments, but we had to pay most vendors.
3 days before my wedding day I went overseas, spent some time on an island yoga retreat and have spent the rest of the time crying, throwing away memories and crying some more.
My chest hurts from this horrible situation and I wish it upon no one.
Thank you for your support,
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that it ended that way…it really sounds like your FI had some issues to work through. I hope that you get the time you need to heal. He did not treat you with respect, and I hope he realizes what he threw away.
I know it’s tough, but don’t feel humiliated. You did what was best for you, and while I can’t even imagine how hard that must have been, you probably did the right thing. Your family and friends (the people that love you) will understand.
Lots of hugs, my thoughts are with you!
Post # 4
@Letsgoanon: I know it is hard to cancel a wedding, but I think in the long run, it was a positive thing. There are others of us who have lived through the canceling of a wedding, and I believe at least the majority of us would say that looking back, we feel we are better off having married another than the one we first thought we’d marry. You may have pre-empted a divorce, which I hear are much worse. Sending you hugs, to heal your heart.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry about all you’ve gone through! It sounds like a nightmare.
I do think in time you will see this was all for the better. Your posts tell me that you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and that you deserve better than that bratty immature boy.
Post # 6
@Letsgoanon: I’m so sorry. Don’t feel embarassed.
Post # 7
wow so sorry. Went back to read your previous thread. I’m sure this is for the best. Good luck. (((((hugs)))))
Post # 8
It was such a small petty thing but sometimes that’s what brings out someone’s true colors. I know it hurts now but it is truely for the best. No one should have to endure verbal abuse like that and no telling if his anger would have escalated in the future.
Things ended badly for me with the man I thought I would need to “settle” for but I met the man of my dreams less than 8 months later. Now is the time to heal from your broken heart and focus on you.
Post # 9
@Letsgoanon: everything works out like it is supposed to and are lucky that you didn’t end up with that jerk. Now you can find who you are supposed to be with! My DH had called off an engagement years before we met, it was about 3 months before the wedding. It was hard on him at the time but he did what he needed to do and fast forward to now and we are happily married. We both thank God that he had enough sense to call it off!
Post # 10
I am so sorry 🙁 I had been thinking of your story since I first read it and I really felt so badly for you. It will be hard to imagine that good will come from this but it most definitely will. Time will heal the pain.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending happy vibes your way xx
Post # 12
@Letsgoanon: i am so sorry this happened. time will heal your heart. i believe that things happen for a reason. i have called off a wedding before and yes, it’s a bit humiliating but things do get better. trust me. i wish you the best.
Post # 13
OP, I hope in the end you find your happy ending. Just keep focusing on yourself and your health!
Post # 14
OP I am so sorry for you. I’ve been checking for updates and though I hurt for you and your heartbreak, I’m glad that you didn’t end up with an immature child. A divorce is so much worse than canceling a wedding. Your perfect one is out there in the world waiting for you! Work on yourself and everything else will work out.
Post # 15
Canceling a wedding is better than going through a divorce. You will look back on this and know you dodged a huge, man child shaped bullet.
Post # 16
All the best wishes for mending your hurt heart and filling it with love in the future