(Closed) Frustrated … Needing Some Encouragement …

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

That really is a bummer – sorry all of your friends are flaking out! Not all of my friends/BMs made it to my bachelorette party either, and while I was fine with it, I ended up only having about 7 girls out including me. They all had very good excuses, but it doesn’t help when you’re looking forward to something so much and are disappointed when they don’t come. It’s not like I was mad at them for not coming, you’re just let down. So, I know how you feel.

Just keep your chin up and have a fabulous time with the girls who are coming! Your sister will put together an awesome weekend for you, so try to enjoy it with those who are coming!

Post # 4
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Aw, I’m sorry you’re bummed.  But on the bright side, you might have a better time with fewer girls.  You’ll really get to bond and spend quality time with the girls that are there.

Post # 5
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is nonsense! You’re friends need to step up. It’s not like you are asking them to fly to Vegas (or anywhere). My MOH was having a similar issue but was trying to keep me outta it so I don’t know the entire story. Just focus on the good time you will soon have with those that care/matter the most. Sounds like a great weekend!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I suspect the cost issue may just be an excuse.  You mentioned that it was over the 4th of July weekend, so it’s possible that people already have other plans with their own families or something.  I know I’m busy that weekend with my family.  Maybe they just told your MOH that cost was the reason because they thought it would look worse to say they have plans.

I am sorry you’re dealing with this, but don’t worry.  Five is still a party.  I had the same number at my Bachelorette Party and it was a lot of fun.  And I’m sure you guys will still have fun too!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree that 4th of July weekend may already be booked up.  That is a 3 day weekend so its a time that I usually try to take a trip or vacation if I can pull it off. 

Did the invites say that it was free?  Did you give them an estimated cost or agenda?  Maybe they were thinking you were planning on activities and eating out which over 3 days can be expensive even if the lodging is free.

Post # 9
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

out of like 30 people(4 of which were bridesmaids) i had 8(including myself) show up for games, snacks and drinks(2 of which aren’t even MY friends), 4(including myself) go to the dancing class that was set up, and 3 of us(including myself) go out on the town and dance the night away… i feel ya, people suck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

That’s stinks.  I would be hurt to especially since it’s practically free, but I can also see the other side of it being that maybe they had other plans or prior commitments before they knew about your party?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

That sucks more aren’t coming. 🙁  I think it may be due to the July 4th weekend too. Well, have fun with those that are there. Make the best of it and have a blast!!!! 🙂

Post # 12
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I totally hear you about being bummed.  For my bachelorette party, we were supposed to do a slumber party after a night out on the town and the girls were going to sleep over at my place, but they all decided to just go home after wards.  I was really disappointed because the night ended up ending around 11:30, and I had pictured us all in our pjs sleeping out in the extra bedroom and chatting until the wee hours.  So I was definitely bummed.

And I know that I’d be bummed in your situation too.  Especially if many of them suggested the 4th of July, they knew AHEAD of time that that’s when it was happening, so they shouldn’t have made other plans.  The “it’s too expensive” excuse is really lame when it’s only costing them the cost of gas and some food.  So sorry that your girls are flaking on you.  🙁

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you guys will still have an awesome time. I often find you end up have the craziest times with the smallest group of people rather than the largest. My friends are spread all across Canada so it is very doubtful I will get the bachelorette I would really want but I know the people that do show will have the best time ever. It sucks when people are flakey but don’t let that get you down. I know you are going to have a great time regardless.

Post # 15
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

You picked a good number-17!!! My two weddings were 11/17/09 (India) and 4/17/10 (U.S.) so 17 is my new lucky number. 🙂

 

Have fun!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Have a great time with those who value you enough to come to something everyone essentially committed to earlier!

And yay for the 17th brides! 3 months from today!

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