FRUSTRATED- venue issues driving me insane!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Creiddylad:  Have you thought about renting a vacation house?? Check out vrbo.com for vacation rentals in your area. We are renting a lake house for two nights for less than the cheapest venue around here. My bridesmaids and I are staying in the house the night before and FI and I will stay the night of the wedding. We can self cater and bring our own alcohol. Since it’s not a venue, we have to rent tables and chairs and decorate ourselves but you’re looking at that if you used your field also. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not sure how long vendors are taking to get back to you, and this isn’t an excuse for everyone, but I assume that Christmas/New Years is probably the best chance most venues get to close down for a week or two, to take time out from work and to spend time holidaying, or with their family.  I know I personally am still catching up on emails from December, and I’ve been back at work since January 2nd. Plus, with all the Christmas proposals, and people having time off work, a lot of places are probably flooded with email enquiries at the moment.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Creiddylad:  Oh yes…we had to rule out quite a few amazing houses that just didn’t have enough parking. We did consider finding a nearby parking area and shuttling people in but luckily found a house with decent parking. But there were definitely houses I liked better that just wouldn’t work for that reason. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Creiddylad:  I’m sorry for your venue troubles. Most venues I’ve spoken with book up over a year in advance, so they don’t care because they know they can book it, especially in a popular state for a wedding. 

How big is your wedding? VRBO would be a good option for something on the smaller side. But if parking is an issue, why not just get a shuttle or ask people to carpool?

 

Post # 10
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1234 posts
Bumble bee

Look at museums, restaurants, community centers, parks, nature centers, even zoos! Some places may advertise as “event spaces” or “event venues” but still allow weddings. Some may not advertise events at all! 

Post # 11
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Are you and FI paying for the wedding? If so, maybe you could go back to the field by your house idea, and sell it to your parents by saying you can’t afford any of the other venues?

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I would strongly recommend looking at unconventional venues that aren’t know as “wedding venues”. Backstory: my fiance and I opened a large music studio in Vancouver that has ancillary event space (it came with the building we leased, so we made it work). Now to our suprise, we’re renting it out for weddings. A lot of places won’t even advertise as wedding venues, but inquire with them anyway. You may have to do more legwork (i.e. renting tables, chairs, etc) BUT these venues are way, way cheaper than “wedding venues”. Plus, a lot of these places will be more flexible about what food and alcohol you can bring in (and choosing a cheaper caterer and buying your own booze does a LONG way in saving money). When people hold weddings in our space, they would rent the tables, chairs (we have some but not enough for a large event), hire a bartender, buy their own booze and either bring in their own food or hire whatever caterer they wanted, and that’s it! You just have to hire these extra people separately if you want to save the most money. You may also need to get a one-day temporary liquor license as we are not usually allowed to serve liquor 24/7 – it may be different in the U.S., you may not need it, but it’s an easy process here so don’t be put off by that.

It’s important to look at spaces with a creative eye – don’t write something off because it doesn’t have a designated “room”, for example. I’ve seen amazing (and high-end) weddings in the middle of what you’d think is just lobby space in an art gallery, but the amazing architectural features + cool decorating made it stunning. Your first step should be googling different terms that will bring up a variety of search results (you will need to spend an hour or two on google). I’d recommend searching for art galleries, dance and music studios, theatre space, and other “gallery” or artist-type spaces in your city. That’s a start! Artists tend to want to be in cool and aesthetically pleasing spaces so most of these will likely be nice already and won’t need uplighting, etc. To give you an example, here is our room that we rent for weddings for around $1000: http://www.soundhousestudios.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Soundhouse_AtticHigh-res.jpg
There are lots of spaces like this out there, you just have a look a bit harder for them. Put some flowers in to make it more feminine and BAM, awesome wedding venue. We also added large globe string lights – they look awesome and are fairly affordable – think about adding that to any venue to find if you want to spice it up.

If you really want to find an outdoor space then look up farms and gardens and vinyards that aren’t used to holding weddings (i.e. often they won’t be listed on wedding websites) and contact them directly. You won’t be able to rely on these venues to necessarily tell you what their seated capacity is, or how many tables you’ll need, or catering recommendations, but if you are willing to do this yourself then you’re golden. (and it’s not that hard, honestly… if you find it difficult get a friend to help who is good with logistics). Good luck!!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Creiddylad:  awesome! Something that helped with phone anxiety is a script – a little message for vm and a little intro for if someone picks up. 

90 person is a bit big but likely doable. The VRBOs I looked at were 50 people or fewer OR charged 10-14k in Sonoma with no rentals. That’s why I just went with our venue – fits up to 200 and is competitively priced with other venues. 

 

Post # 15
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hope the farm works out!!

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