Post # 1
I don’t want to be judged, so I’m using my alias again. Thank you to all who read this massive vent.
First off, we live in an 110+ year old house. Obviously, it had/has to be modified , but that’s okay because I love old homes and my husband is a carpenter. We’ve been married for several years now. Back while we were engaged, as an ‘I want this to be your house too gift’ my now Darling Husband had opened the standard sized door connecting our kitchen/dining room into a French door size space (no doors, it’s left open). I loved this at the time (before it was my kitchen – I hadn’t realized how little useful space there is), but almost five years later it’s still not done. Being it’s not done I would really like for him to open it further so it’s more combined that way I can have an island (more storage space, more prep space). Without being opened more, there is absolutely no room for an island. Honestly, if our kitchen had space, I wouldn’t be bothered by this, but it doesn’t. I have so little space that I have to store pretty much all of my not everyday appliances upstairs in our spare bedroom (crock pot, waffle maker, bread machine, mixer, pizza machine, wok pot, griddle, blender). I cook everything from scratch, so you better believe I’m hauling that bread machine up and down the stairs almost every other day. Our home is only a two bedroom house (needing bathrooms elminated bedrooms), and we’re talking about having kids soon. We need that room to act as a bedroom, not a storage room. Our house, like many old houses, only has one closet in the whole house and it’s got a slanted ceiling so basically all it fits is our Christmas tree and two totes (off season clothes). Although I know it is a lot of work modifying support walls to open them up (honestly, I know it’s a lot, a lot of work), I can’t help but feel frustrated my husband absolutely refuses to go back and change the still unfinished anyway wall. I also can’t help but to be bothered by the fact that he still hasn’t even finished the wall, I mean come on, we do have guests on a regular basis! So bee’s mostly this is just a vent, but I’d also like some encouragement on how to get my husband to at least finish the project (he won’t teach me how to mud) and preferably modify it. BTW: I do all of the cooking/cleaning/laundry/everything house related, he doesn’t even get dirty things (clothes, dishes) where they need to be. I’m fine with this – all I ask is that he makes the house functional so I can do what I need to do.
For reference, this is how I want it opened up. My kitchen is smaller than this one, and has way less cupboard space being one whole wall is dedicated to doors to other areas of the house, and the unfinished wall can’t have any storage on it anyway being it’s also part of a hall
Post # 3
Oh, that’s a tough one. Sorry you’re going through that. As someone who also has an older house I can def. see the advantages of buying a newer home. I guess I don’t have any advice for you, but I do wish you the best of luck. BTW that kitchen you posted is gorgeous.
Post # 4
You make perfect sense, this is actually what we are in the process of doing. If i had to wait for my husband, it would take forever. I ended up getting several quotes and hiring a professional to do it. Maybe if you obtain quotes he will get into gear?
Post # 5
Have you heard the story about the shoemaker’s kids who had no shoes?
Chances are he is up to his eyeballs with carpentry by the time he gets home from work.
I would have a heart to heart and tell him how much it would mean to you to have the kitchen expanded and finished. I would ask him a date by which he would agree to get it done, or get his agreement that the two of you will hire someone to do it.
It is ridiculous that you are hauling kitchen appliances up and down the stairs.
Post # 6
Ugh I know how you feel! Fiance has yet to put the baseboard up in our curennt kitchen, it’s now been 4 years! ugh! We’re renovating our new home now and he wonders why I want all these things done before we move in. Well, it’s because the past has proven if it’s not done before, it will probably never be done!
If there’s something Fiance really doesn’t want to do, I ask for it for my birthday, our anniversary etc. haha. He always asks me what I want b/c he’s a horrible shopper and always wants some direction. Many times I’ve come back with I want “us to do…” and turn it into a day activity. And usually follow up with some thank you sex 😉
Post # 7
I feel your pain!
I am married to an electrican and have been in my house for 2 yrs. I now am just starting to have all of my outlets done and a fixture that has been in the box for 2yrs. Does you Darling Husband work with anyone of have anyone work for him? Ask him about paying someone else to finish. I know it seems like a waste of money but the last thing he probably wants to do is work when he comes home and it’s just going to drive you crazy until it’s done.
Post # 8
My dad is a carpenter… the only way things got finished at our house growing up was my mom threatening to sell the house. As in she would put the house up for sale which would make my dad have to finished off all his projects lol. Now keep in mind we did move every few years regardless, so if you are planning on staying put this wont help you any.
Honestly its one of those things were he works all day on construction so the last thing he wants to do is come home and work some more. Same as a plumber whos house is always leaking or mechanic whos cars are falling apart lol. I would suggest hiring someone to get some of the work starter or at least to give your hubby a hand.