- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
SO & I have been together for over 2 years. A proposal should be coming soon because we’ve talked about it & know we are on the same page. He bought the ring & had it sized & everything. I’m 99.9% sure he talked to my dad already, too. He’s the youngest & has expressed doubts about being the first of his siblings to get engaged/married. One of his brothers seemed close as well, but SO & I didn’t want to get engaged/married around the same time as his brother. I asked if we found out when his brother was going to propose if he would just wait and let him and he was like, “Or I could just go first.” So it seemed like he got over his initial not-wanting-to-be-first thing.
I expected us to get engaged any time now and thought that it would be awhile before his brother got engaged & that there would be plenty of time between. Well, his brother regently got engaged & now it’s going to look like we’re following them. Everything is going to be compared between our weddings (when we get engaged). His dad already said, “Now they’ve started the wedding fever and everyone is going to start getting engaged!”
I’m the youngest as well and I’m so sick of following & looking like I’m copying. We wanted to get engaged regardless of what they did, but it won’t seem like that. They’re in their mid-late thirties and we’re in our early twenties. Now, when it’s our turn, focus will still be on them & I’m afraid it won’t be as big a deal as it would have been if they hadn’t gotten engaged.
I just want it to be my turn already but it’s going to look like we’re copying them 🙁 I mean, I’m so happy for them. I know the world isn’t going to change depending how it effects my feelings. I’m just really disappointed. I’ve seen friends (SO MANY FRIENDS) get engaged/married while I’ve been waiting but this one was like the last straw. I’m at a loss. I’m trying so hard not to be petty, but I’m so so so tired of waiting. Any words of wisdom?