Frustrated with 6+ months TTC and constant "bump watchers"

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@maggierose:  I am with you 100%! We haven’t been trying as long as you but I am already so sick of people asking! I have one friend in particular that asks me every day. She is 8 wks along with her second and they got KU with their first on the first go! I actually don’t want to tell anyone when we get KU until 12 weeks but we’ll have to tell her because she will be so mad if we don’t tell her. Argh! Also my husband’s BIL is terrible. EVERY time he sees me he says “Pregnant yet?” Even if I am drinking a beer while he is talking to me! I just want to say stop asking! I promise we’ll tell you when we are!

On a side note: this same BIL is going to be the guy who always wants to touch my preggo belly and its already annoying me and I’m not KU!

Post # 4
20 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

Coming out of perpetual lurkdom just to say I feel your pain. I could have written this – 8 months with no luck here as well, doing “all the things” and such. Every month it doesn’t happen I just feel myself and my parents (who are awesome with kids – but getting up there in age) getting older. I wish I could have anticipated how depressing that feeling would be. I have no idea who I have become but she is bitter and jealous and a wee bit crazy…I hate her.

I try really hard to tell myself that it is ENTIRELY POSSIBLE that I am just in that percentage of people for whom it will take up to a full year, and to not start to get anxious until it is coming up on that full year…but easier said than done, obviously!


Post # 5
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can definitely understand your frustration. I’ve always found it EXTREMELY rude for people to …not sure if this is the right way to say it… But push their agenda on you. It seemed like when fire chief and I were dating all we heard is when are you getting married. Which was VERY frustrating to me b/c i was ready LONG before he was. Now that we are married we hear one of two things from friends and family.  Either when are you two gonna have a baby or DON’T EVER HAVE KIDS. Both of which I find extremely offensive.  If I wasn’t a drama avoider I’d tell them where to stick their unsolicited advice lol. I guess all I can say is take comfort that you are not alone and do what I do. Come up with snarky replies in your head as you smile and answer them nicely. Lol. GL

Post # 6
2740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

A friend of mine went through this.  She ended up saying to people “you know what, it’s not always easy!” in a lighthearted manner and leaving it at that.  Obviously that only works if you don’t mind people knowing you’re TTC, but in her case it did get people to STFU about it.  I think it just honestly doesn’t occur to some people that there could be problems TTC.

… She ended up conceiving naturally after 1+ year. 

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