Frustrated with a friend… little rant

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

@FutureMrsT1221:  i had a friend in that time frame of my life & we were really close until we graduated high school & i went to college, and she started working full time so she could move out of her moms apartment & smoke weed everyday. Needless to say, we drifted a part. I think it would be neat to be able to invite her to our wedding, but shes not at the top of the list… not even the top 200. She didnt get an invite to our engagement party bc i’m not sure if i’ll be able to invite her to the wedding and its been years since i’ve spent time with her in person. Don’t feel bad. Shes being bitter, but you’re in very diff stages of life, and went down different paths. Its just how life goes sometimes.

Post # 5
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489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’d be happy she wasn’t going to show up, it avoids even more awkwardness!

Post # 6
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@MrsChristopher:  +1

I’m starting to think that maybe she was hurt that you are not including her in the bridal party.  That is NOT your problem, but I can understand her hurt feelings.  She thought you two had a close established friendship, and she found out that you do not feel the same way. 

Post # 7
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@FutureMrsT1221:  Maybe she misplaced it until the day before or it got lost in the mail for 2.5 weeks.  She could have forgotten about your conversation in the meantime and then found/received the invite and said “oh shit that’s right!” 

It’s seriously so not a big deal if you already thought she couldn’t make it.  If she can’t come for any reason she probably feels bad and came up with a lame excuse, which sounds bitchy because it’s text, not necessarily because she’s being bitchy. 

To not invite her to your wedding over one text – would be bitchy. 

Post # 8
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@FutureMrsT1221:  It sounds like her feelings are hurt about not being a BM, which is a little immature, but that is her problem, not yours. Go ahead and invite her to the wedding. It won’t hurt anyone to invite her, but excluding her will probably end your friendship. If you really don’t want her there and don’t mind ending your friendship with her, then don’t invite her. But, if you want to salvage what’s left of the friendship, just invite her. Your wedding day will be such a blur, you won’t have time to talk to her for more than a few minutes anyway, so it’s not like her being there is going to ruin anything for you.

Post # 10
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@FutureMrsT1221:  I get feeling hurt because you feel like you make more of an effort and feeling sad because you’ve kind of lost a friendship.  But don’t jump to conclusions about how she feels.  Take it at face value and move on is the best you can do.  “Sorry you can’t make it, hope we can catch up before the wedding!”

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