My MOH had no idea what was invovled. so i emailed her an article fomr theknot.com on MOH responsiblities. I was timid to email her a list of duties but she later told me she was relieved that I did so because she was clueless.
I hear your frusteration. My mom recently asked one of mine to help put on a shower. I only have 2 bridesmaids, one being my sister who is 16. So my other BM who is my friend agreed, I guess, with my mom that she would buy the chairs and cake. The chairs being only $35 and whatever the cake cost. Then she sent me an email the othe rnight saying "You need to tell your mom she needs to buy that stuff because I can't afford it." Which is okay, I under stand, but...Then went on to say "She doesn't even get why she's paying for anything anyway, she didn't know it was one of her duties as a bridesmaid to help with a shower." I put a post online asking if I should be upset and everyone that replied got mad at me! Whatever, I'm at the point where I can't even wait until my wedding is over. All I know is that even though we can't force people to do things for you, it makes you upset when you know what kind of friend you are to them and know you would do more for them and wonder why they don't feel the same in return. I guess to each their own.
Adding to my last message, it's not about the fact that she can't afford it. Don't think I'm greedy. It's about the things she said after that that got me. She could have just said "I can't afford it, I wish I could help"...know what I mean?
My MOH had no idea what was invovled. so i emailed her an article fomr theknot.com on MOH responsiblities. I was timid to email her a list of duties but she later told me she was relieved that I did so because she was clueless.
posted by TallBride Busy bee: 654 posts 6 months agoI hear your frusteration. My mom recently asked one of mine to help put on a shower. I only have 2 bridesmaids, one being my sister who is 16. So my other BM who is my friend agreed, I guess, with my mom that she would buy the chairs and cake. The chairs being only $35 and whatever the cake cost. Then she sent me an email the othe rnight saying "You need to tell your mom she needs to buy that stuff because I can't afford it." Which is okay, I under stand, but...Then went on to say "She doesn't even get why she's paying for anything anyway, she didn't know it was one of her duties as a bridesmaid to help with a shower." I put a post online asking if I should be upset and everyone that replied got mad at me! Whatever, I'm at the point where I can't even wait until my wedding is over. All I know is that even though we can't force people to do things for you, it makes you upset when you know what kind of friend you are to them and know you would do more for them and wonder why they don't feel the same in return. I guess to each their own.
posted by leena Wannabee: 2 posts 6 months agoAdding to my last message, it's not about the fact that she can't afford it. Don't think I'm greedy. It's about the things she said after that that got me. She could have just said "I can't afford it, I wish I could help"...know what I mean?
posted by leena Wannabee: 2 posts 6 months agoposted by happybridetobe Newbee: 6 posts 6 months ago