- 6 years ago
Going to apologize first off that I had no idea where to put this so it’s in the beehive for now. And sorry if this vent ends up being long 🙁
My husband has a problem with finding out some new exciting information and becoming absolutely fixated on making it happen. We were randomly tossing around the idea of getting a second vehicle so we could each have one when I’m done school. I figured we’d start looking in July, but back in March he gets in it his head that he has to have it now (even though he already drives the other car and I don’t complain about not having one) and he starts looking non stop for a new car.
I kept telling him no, because the car he wants was really expensive and we should wait until the 2013 cars come out to lower the price of the used ones. Instead of stopping his search he decides to start looking in the U.S. where the car is cheaper (were from Ontario, Canada). Goes as far as to search in Florida (no idea how he thought that would work). Anyways, after months of this he finds one that is actually a great deal, has all the bells and whistles etc, I tried to convince him to keep looking in Canada because it’s way easier but he gets his heart set on this one.
He decides to go for it, which means wiring the money (were paying all at once) to the dealership, which scares the heck out of me, and leaving at 2 am to take a 2 hour shuttle to the airport, to the fly to new york and drive back. Oh and ya, he only has until 4 pm to get to customs or he has to stay over night. Well he just called me freaking out because apparantly he just got pulled over for speeding!! I am pissed. He was crying hard so I was supportive and didn’t get mad, but inside I am livid. The price of this stupid vehicle keeps going up and up as the canadian dollar was low the day he had to wire the money so the vehicle ended up costing an extra $1000! Now add on the cost of the ticket, insurance going up and an extra hotel stay because he won’t make it to the border by 4 pm.
Ugh I am so angry. I am frustrated and feeling helpless because I know that my husband feels horrible and is really upset, and there is nothing I can do to help him now. But part of me just wants to shake him!
If this was a one time thing I could get over it, but he keeps getting ideas in his head and no matter how many times I say no, it isn’t the right time for us, etc., he won’t stop begging until I get tired of it and give in so he will leave me alone. This is how we ended up with a dog that I didn’t want and still do not have the time or energy to deal with (he takes care of it, I am just way too busy with work/school to handle a dog).
Sorry this was so long. There’s not much to be done but to have a good conversation with him about how I am tired of being manipulated into him getting his way only for it to backfire in my face. He’s a great husband otherwise, but sometimes I feel like I’m married to a 5 year old who gets upset if he can’t have the newest toy 😛
Does anyone else have a SO who gets too excited about ideas? It’s so annoying!