- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Ok where do I begin. Before me and my Darling Husband married I use to hang out a lot with his oldest sister and her friends. They always invited me for get togethers but now its all changed. They dont even invite my 3 girls which is not biologically his but that shouldnt matter. I hate that he tells them I am going shopping that they should go with me when I dont even feel like they want me around. I hate to go on FB and see photos of his nieces and nephews all together and my kids not get invited to the birthdays or sleepovers. Onde day she had the kids over and he called her and asked if she wanted my girls over also and she said that was too many kids. REALYY but I can have them all at my house and I tend to not say a word about it. I hate to see photos of his sisters out with the girls and he noticed it too and I tell him wow no invite.The only time I get a phone call is when they need me to translate for them since they all hardly speak english so I just dont even answer the phone anymore.
Another thing is he wants to buy a house like right now. I told him I think we should wait because they are cutting my hours at work. 2nd I believe we have a lot of bills and I dont want to live in a tight budget I want to be comfortable. Another thing since he has known me I want to move out of state for better job opportunities and more for my 3 girls. I was raised in my small town and I am ready for a change. Now he just moved out here 3 years ago from Puerto Rico and slowly his sisters and brother moved out here too. Now they are very close to each other which I dont mind but when I brought this to his attention he said he does not want to move because he wants to be close to his sisters and brother. He said the only reason they are all here is because of that. Now his youngest sister moved out here and her husband didnt want to come but she made him and now the guy is jobless and she is struggling to make ends meet. I told him we cannot live our lives based around your family our whole lives. If they want to visit if we move then they are welcomed. We will only be 2-4 hrs away. He said well if we move they are going to come too. I was like WHAT!!! Are you serious?? I told him I am your wife and you married me not them. He told me the conversation was over and walked away. Al I did was cry cause I try to compromise in everything with him but when I open my mouth it leads to this.