(Closed) FRUSTRATED with the groom!!!!!! Is it just me???

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What is your FI doing as far as helping with the wedding planning and errand doing?  That’s fine to say that you want to plan the wedding, because it sounds like you are a capable woman.  However, your FI still needs to offer a helping hand. 

Post # 4
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Wow! I’m so sorry for the frustrations your FI is causing you! That is definitely hard to deal with! Is your FI doing ANYTHING to help with the wedding planning? you are obviously busy enough. I know you snapped about the things he’s asked you to do (which is completely understandable!), but have you two just sat and talked about everything? I think it’s really important that you just sit down and calmly talk with him about why he’s frustrating you. I know it should be obvious that he’s being a pain, but guys really just don’t see it sometimes. I always have to lay things out plainly for my hubby before he sees things from my point of view. So tell you FI how you already have enough to do and maybe give him a really simple task list of things that he can easily take care of with help from his groomsmen or friends. Sometimes you just have to tell the guys how it is before they’ll finally see that they’re being buttheads 😀

Post # 5
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m sure I’m not the only one who will say that the situation sounds familiar!  My FI had some tasks assigned to him that were not getting done.  I would bring up the checklist and let him know his deadline was approaching or had pass, but it didn’t sink in.  Now we have a standing meeting.  On Sunday afternoons, we first go update each other on what tasks we have completed, any snags we’ve run into, and what we’re planning on accomplishing in the coming week.  We also try to balance the load as well as take a peek at the budget to make sure we’re still on track.  Men are naturally not multi-taskers.  When I was reminding my FI about things that needed to be done, he was doing other things, and while he may have heard me, it wasn’t really sinking in.  Unfortunately we discovered this the hard way (biggest fight we’ve had in years).  I would talk to him and tell him that you feel overwhelmed and really need his help.  Men like to save the damsel in distress!  He just may need a little help recognizing the damsel that needs to be saved!

Good luck!

Post # 6
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m sorry things are crazy for you right now.  I think every bride feels this way before the wedding.  You did not need this extra stress right now.  I’m sure your honey had no clue what a huge burden he was putting on you when asking you to do all this extra stuff.

With a week to go, there is probably little you can do to get him to pick up the slack, except for telling him that additional tasks are stressing you out, so if there is anything else he needs done, he should figure out a way to get it done!  I bet you are his go-to person whenever he gets stressed, and so with all of this stuff, he just went to default mode.

Keep your eye on the prize.  You are almost there!  (though it seems like your fiance needs an extra-loving bop on the head right now).  Can you make a list of tasks that you want him to do so that he can make it up to you a little bit?

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