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    stlginkgo    3/20/10  

    So I have been researching cloth diapers vs disposables. Orginally I was pro-disposables becasue frankly I didn't know anything else! Well after reading about both sides I am now pro-cloth. Honestly its more cost effective and protects by baby's bum against bad chemicals. I know there is debate about the enviromental side, but the financial benefit is the biggest draw for me.

    Well I posted on facebook (the root of all evil) that I was researching I have gotten alot of flack from DH family. Even after MULTIPLE times explaining that I am not interested in cloth bc of environmental reasons they keep bringing it up saying there is no difference environmentally for cloth.

    Um hello...I have already said that is not my reasoning! I am so tired of them basically pooping (pun intended to cheer me up) all over what we want to do for our baby. Just bc we are not doing the exact same things as SIL doesn't mean either of us is wrong!

    ARGH...

     
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    Yikes, I'm sorry.  My sister has already made comments to me like 'oh I'm sure you're going to be one of those weird cloth diaper people' and I'm not even pregnant yet.  I'm not ashamed to say I'm environmentally conscious but what really swayed me was that babies in cloth don't usually get diaper rashes.  I just wore an old pair of bike shorts that gave me butt burn and I've been complaining about it for 2 days now, not exactly something I want for my baby (especially in an area that has poop around it)

    But.......people who use disposables will think I'm judging them, but I'm just trying to explain why we decided what we decided, there's no winning.

     
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    Moose1209       Nashville, TN

    Just say "thanks for your opinion" and change the subject.  It is no one else's business what goes on your baby's bum!

     
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    Schatzie821    August 21, 2010   New Hampshire, US

    I know what you mean about families being a pain and about FB being evil!

     

    I would however ask you to think about one thing.  Your TIME has value too.  And cloth diapers take a lot more time (cleaning them, cleaning the baby, etc.)  So don't just think about the money involved.

    I do like the no chemicals on the baby though! 

    Good luck with whichever decision you make.  And remember it has to be right for YOU and no one else (well maybe your hubby :P )

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    Ugh...I would just try to ignore their comments at this point and stop responding to them. Hopefully they drop the subject soon.

     
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    stlginkgo    3/20/10  

    I think the most frustrating is that they think their way is best. Well thats great its best FOR THEM, not me, not DH, not our baby. Do I go around talking smack on their baby choices? No! grrrr

    @Schatzie821: good call on the time part. I have thought of that and I'm thinking perhaps a diaper service, until DH and I get the hang of it.

     
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    Mamasita2004    February 12, 2011   Texas

    I admire you for going the cloth diaper route.  That isn't an easy task to take on.  I wanted to post a sarcastic comment for you to shoot back at them, but I know that isn't the right thing to do.  Just hold your head up high and ignore them. If you husband supports your choice, that is all that matters.  If it gets really bad, I would suggest asking your husband to talk to them.  The best thing to do is pray for those that verbally attack you, and to turn the other cheek. 

     
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    @stlginkgo:  It's your choice and I think it's a good one.  I'm sorry you're getting crap for it.  Your hubby needs to tell them to lay off.

     
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    snmcdowell    9-13-08   Chicago

    We're also doing cloth and are getting some rude feedback about how messy it is. I just shrug and smile and say, "Maybe I'm crazy, but that's what we're going with." Even if they drive you crazy with their comments, they can't force you to change what you're doing :)

     
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    kjpugs    March 20, 2010   Indianapolis, IN

    Tell them "Thanks for your thoughts! I'll be sure to bring disposables for when YOU babysit but I'll stick with my choice when I watch my own child."

     
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    808bride    October 10, 2009   Hawaii

    It's worth giving it a try, regardless of the naysayers. The diaper service we are going with for the first few months uses prefolds and diaper covers. My friend is going to show  me how to fold the diaper ahead of time b/c apparently there are different ways to prefold that work better than others. Anyway, as far as environmental impact not being a major reason for me too (although it is nice), I really think cloth will be more comfortable. I hate the sound/feel of plastic and it makes sense that those fleece/terry/cotton diapers would be oh so pampering to the baby's bottom.

    P.S. I think it's only the beginning of people 'opinionating' all over your child rearing choices. Did you get a lot of practice with this (deflecting other's strong opinions)  with your wedding planning? i sure did. It was an unpleasant but necessary growing experience.

     
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    Get used to people judging your parenting choices...UGH.  The "advice" never stops!  I just ignore the rude stuff now...I'm too exhausted to argue anymore.

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    FI already turns his nose at cloth. Little does he comprehend the EXPENSE of disposable diapers! I'm personally pretty pro-cloth and am happy that some old classmates have already gone that route. Now, I have no baby or kids to say from experience, however, I will say, when the day comes, PRO-CLOTH! 

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    In Seattle, people look at you funny if you use disposables!  I say stick to your guns and don't worry what others say.  Let's face it, someone is going to say something regardless of what you decide!

     
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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    sometimes I just have sassy/snarky remarks that I say "in my head", but it's not worth fighting back...on some of my baby related choices "well, I guess I *COULD just go with what the corporations want me to buy, but I'd rather do what's best for my baby and budget."   :P

     
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    Miss Starlet    June 8, 2009   MI

    We're doing cloth diapers too. We are currently in the midst of trying to figure out what will work best for us, so the research is making sort of crazy.

    I'm kind of frustrated for you that people are giving you a hard time. I have gotten nothing but kudos from people! We're doing it mostly from a $$ standpoint, since my 9 yo still wears diapers. I like the added bonus that it's a greener choice. I'm a SAHM, and people know that we're cutting costs and doing yhings "fron scratch" as much as possible, so maybe that's why people haven't ??? our decision.

    But, still, what the heck difference does it make to anyone else? I would personally tell them that they've let their opinion be known, now they can drop it, or bite you.

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    i've mentioned cloth just because they are more natural for my baby, but my mom freaked and said how gross it was!! come one, give me a break!

     

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