Post # 1
Perhaps it’s the distraction of the wedding planning and that we’re approaching the homestretch, holy-crap-we-need-to-get-this-done portion of it, but work stress is ridiculous for me right now. So much so that it’s making me begin to have very negative thoughts and fantasies about leaving.
My job for the first couple of years was great — but with “lean” times and having been down one staff member on my team since April (I picked up all the work), I’m beginning to dread going in there every day. I’m getting in 15 minutes late and always skipping lunch as a result of my tardiness, so I don’t get a break. And I feel like I’m always being asked to do “one more thing,” even though I’m working 45+ hours a week. I’m finding that I’m beginning to make a lot of errors because I’m spread so thin, which I’m sure doesn’t look stellar to my boss.
I am, however, grateful for my salary ($61K/year) and the overall fact that I have a salaried position that’s 15 minutes away from our home. I don’t discount that one bit — especially in today’s economic landscape. I’m concerned, though, that with our plans to start a family next spring, I won’t be able to commit the same level of work that I am now and whether or not my employer will be okay with that.
Has anyone been in my boat?
Post # 4
Not exactly the same situation as yours, but:
I was given the opportunity to transfer to another group at my place of work, where pay would be more but OT would basically be required. I’d be going from a 37.5 hour work week to bewteen 55-65 hour work week. After pulling around 70 hours the week of this past Christmas FI and I decided it was not worth it – I was always either working or sleeping and I was a total bear to be around lol. I was beyond lucky and my work let me transfer back to my old position and retain my raise and title. One of the main concerns for me working so many hours before was that starting a family one day would be impossible…I was never home! With the group I’m back with now, I know that should I need to change my hours to be home with the kids or leave early for appointments, etc. it would definitely be a possiblity.
So yep, I’ve made career decisions based on the possiblity of a family in the future. I guess my only advice would be to just think about your other options…is there another place/position you’ve been considering? You could always work on polishing up your resume and sending it out to see who bites. It sounds like you have a little time to decide whether staying is worth it to you, so good luck! 🙂
Post # 5
I’m not in the same situation but I’ve definitely been in a job where I was unhappy. I did my job but was aggressively applying for other opportunities. I would say if you are unhappy with the workload and think another company may have a better work/life balance, then pursue it while you are working.
Also, managers sometimes don’t know how much work their employees can handle. I’m not sure if you already did this, but you may want to bring it up with your boss. I think sometimes managers think if they don’t hear any complaints, everything is fine and they can keep on throwing more work on you.
I also think that work dissatisfaction can come in waves, and with wedding planning, I’m sure your stress level is way high! I hope things get better!!!!