Post # 1
Ok I was goin to put this in another thread but I figured it deserved a post all of its own.
So I went to the docs today,after lots of procrastinating,and putting it off. I explained the weve not made any progress and been trying for two years now, stuff. Answered all the usual questions regarding health,alcohol etc.
And they can do nothing. They doctors I am at does not have any facilities for testing hormones,sperm analysis.Nothing. We live outside of the catchment area for the next nearest facility which provides this. The doctors advoce to me? Move house.
Ive never been on the receiving end of the UKs infamous “postcode lottery” and its devestating. To know that we are 2-3 miles away from having all of this help,and being unable to do anything(cant afford to move right now,plus where we are is best for me and DHs work,family etc)
So the plan for now is to ring the surgery which offers all the help and ask if they can possibly help us. If they cant I can take it to our local politician,but to be honest, it seems pointless,we still wouldnt be any closer to any help/tests to try to figure out if there IS anything wrong in the first place. I just wanted to be able to do something,to have a plan of action,instead of just drifting along as best we can and just hoping pregnancy happens.
The most my doctor could do is offer me an ultrasound to rule out PCOS,which ive opted to have done, this will take anywhere form 3-6 months to get an apppointment.
*sigh* Just feel kind of let down,all because of where we live….
Post # 3
Oh my goodness, my heart just breaks for you! I have no real advice for you since I’m completely unfamiliar with how these things work over there but I wanted to tell you that you have every right to be frustrated! Hugs!
Post # 4
This sounds terrible! I couldn’t imagine not being able to get the care I needed! I’m so sorry!
Post # 5
I’m sorry that you can’t get the treatment you need, that sucks!
Post # 6
@kimbo89: I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Do you have family or friends in the catchment area? If so, could you put yourself down as living at their address? Then you should be able to get help from the clinic… people do that to get their kids into schools in the UK all the time…
Also, I wonder if the doctors is being entirely honest with you… I’m from the UK (although I live in Canada now) and if I was ever ill and the problem was something not dealt with in my city, I was referred to a hospital in another city where is was. That happens for illnesses all the time in the UK, so surely they have a duty of care to find you facilities that can treat you. Infertility testing (I think it’s on the NHS still???) then you should be able to be tested anywhere in the country.
This organisation has people you can speak to so maybe they can advise you further: http://www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I had my self a pity party last night with a Mr ben and Mr jerry,lol
@travelgirl1: I will definately take a look at that Thank you so much!I think what the doctor was saying is because its not a life or death illness, were just two healthy adults looking to see if everythings working, its not something that can be referred,were just unluckily outside the catchment area so we cant even go for initial tests,to find out if something IS wrong. Im hoping to ring up the place which does do the test and find out from them if we can be passed onto them through referral or sign up to them,and I will keep you all updated!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
That really sucks. I lived in the UK for a few years but I still don’t fully understand how their lottery system works. Does that mean if you’re outside of the catchment, you don’t qualify for any diagnostic or fertility support? What if you’re prepared to drive in for all appointments?
Post # 9
@jaguar: yeah thats pretty much how it works,we are outside of the catchment area for that particular surgery,and so we cant register there, as they only take people who are within say a 4 mile radius, and we just happen to be not far outside of that radius. Totally sucks a$& (sorry I get annoyed thinking about it) The doctor said because we are under 35, relatively healthy,active, eating well and doing all we can to TTC then there is nothing technically worng with us and so we cant be referred or just go to the other clinic. I just kept thinking, how would they even know if there IS anything wrong,if they wont even give us the basic damn tests? For all we know, I could have any number of issues,hormones etc and Darling Husband could have a low sperm count,or even none at all,and we just wouldnt know because we cant get preliminary tests.
We could go private but its so ridiculously expensive just for consultations,never mind the tests themselves. We also pay our national insurance so why should we have to pay private?