(Closed) frustrated*SIGH*and relieved

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i totally understand where you are coming from!  my hubby and i never argued until we got engaged and then everything was an issue & drama…. eventually i said i didnt think we would last the engagement and asked him what did he want, he responded i just want to marry you

so we cancelled all the plans and eloped and had a big party a few weeks after the event but it was just a party, no stress about anything wedding related, i booked the caterers and staff and got them to do their job so i could relax

i hope you and your FI find the balance you need to work thru this… sending lots of hugs and postiive vibes

 

Post # 4
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

*hugs*

Fiance and I did start arguing quite a bit more once we started wedding planning.  It definitely sucks, but we’re learning how to fight, in a way, and I’m glad we’re figuring all this out before we get married.  I think that’s what an engagement is for. 

That’s really powerful that you’re both more committed to working through your issues than you are to wedding planning.  It sounds like taking a break from the planning to nurture your relationship is going to be a really positive thing, so good for guys for having such a great outlook!  Best of luck, and it sounds like you both are really committed to bettering your relationship.

Post # 5
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Sorry about all the stress and fighting, but it sounds like you’re willing to work through things and make it a lot simpler.  My husband and I fought a lot more when we were wedding planning.  There were manytime is the last year that we didn’t think we’d make it because of the fighting/issues.  Funny thing is that this first month has been the least confrontational since we started dating – it’s great.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I feel ya.  I never wanted the whole “wedding” thing either, it just isn’t me.  So you know what?  We decided to have a SMALL party- no big poufy white dress, no aisle walking, no attendants, no garter toss.  My fiance and I wanted to celebrate without all the traditional hoopla.  I have found this to be so much less stressful- because I can’t make a wrong decision and I have let myself be free of other people’s expectations.  It probably is best to take a little time to breathe and then sit down with your fiance and discuss what would make both of you comfortable.

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