- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I really need to vent about my one of my bridesmaids and get some feedback…
I have three bridesmaids and a maid of honor. One of my bridesmaids, let’s call her Mary, is one of my closest friends from college. She’s alwasy been a little flakey but when push comes to shove she’s a great friend and I truly love her.
About four weeks ago she started complaining about the cost of the dress ($250). Later on that week she told me that she is basically financially supporting one of her parents (who she lives with) and that she has no money, etc. That night I went home and purchased the dress online for her and had it sent to her house as a surprise. I love her, I wanted to help her out, and I did’t want her to stressed about something that should be joyful. (SIDE NOTE- our wedding cost will be about $50,000 + my parents are contributing $20,000 and my fiance and I are paying for the rest. We are spending an arm and a leg so every penny counts!!)
Last week my future sister-in-law sent out bridal shower invites. The date is more than a month away. Mary emails FSIL and says- “I might be going to Europe that weekend with my boyfriend. Can you change the date? I think that we might get engaged while we are there.” (SIDE NOTE- they’ve been together for 4 months.)
Now I am pissed: 1) if you can’t spend $250 on a dress how are you affording a long weekend in Europe? 2) she hasn’t bought plane tickets yet- couldn’t they go the weekend before or after? 3) DUDE, it’s MY bridal shower and the date was chosen so that my family and my fiance’s family could attend. We are not working around your schedule!!!!!
Clearly I am hurt and frustrated by her actions. I feel like I should have chosen another friend to take Mary’s place. I don’t even know what to do from here I am just so upset. HELP!