Post # 1
Okay here is our problem. We really do love love love our caterer he is super prepared, amazing food, and all about presentation (which we love). I know he will be phenomenial the day of our wedding. So the downside. Well everytime we have scheduled a meeting with him (weeks in advance) he has called me 2 days prior and changed the day! This has happened twice. We have completely changed our hectic schedules both times.
Now we are having a walk through with the caterer (asked 2 other vendors to come along as well) this sat. and he sends me an email asking to change the day. We are less than 2 months away from our wedding and i have to have this walk through in order to get sooo much stuff done. I am just frustrated and horrible with confrontation, I dont know what to say to him?
We really have no other time to squeeze this in Help! What would you do?
Post # 3
Here’s my honest answer. He *asked* you to change the day correct? I’d say the answer is "no". I’d send him an email back saying that this is a very important meeting, it’s been scheduled for xxx days, you have two other venders also scheduled to be there, you’ve already rescheduled two meetings with him at the last minute and honestly there is no way to change the date this close to the walk through.
Post # 4
I second that – tell him that changing the meeting is not an option, as you have other vendors scheduled to be there. Point out that you have already rescheduled twice for meeting with him, and while you have tried to be understanding you are also very busy. So the answer is no – can’t reschedule – sorry. And then I would have a serious talk with him (not in front of the other vendors, obviously) about your concern – that you love his food, presentation, etc, and are very glad he’s your caterer, but that you need a better level of service from him as far as keeping appointments as originally scheduled. It really shouldn’t be a problem – you’re being perfectly reasonable! Just say it nicely, but firmly.
Post # 5
I will THIRD that! You are way too close to the wedding to be pulling ins and outs like this. Too many chances, you have other things to do…He shouldn’t commit to a time unless he knows he can really come. Don’t let him get in the habit of it for yourselves and others.
Post # 6
Thank you all so much. I just told him I couldnt change the day, it was already planned out for a while now . I tried to be nice, but firm, and we were able to stay with the date, we just had to move the time a bit earlier (which I am fine with). I just suck at confrontation- but i feel better now that everything worked out!