Post # 1
So my Fiance and I got engaged last year and we knew we wanted to get married this year (after we both graduate college). His older sister (he’s the youngest) got engaged a month after us. She has her wedding date etc planned, but we don’t and every time we try to bring something up, both she and the other sister freak out about the fact that we want to get married this year too. So, now we have contemplated just eloping in a way and just inviting my parents and his parents (both are ok with whenever we want to get married). We would then just have a reception at another time and hopefully avoid all the obnoxiousness. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
Just ignore them and plan it if that’s what you want to do. Make sure there’s at least a reasonable amount of time in between so that his older sister can have plenty of time for herself and if you can plan it for afterward just so that she’s over everything by the time yours comes around. Or just elope, whatever works for you.
Post # 4
I think that if you want to get married this year and plan a wedding, as long as you don’t have it too close they shouldn’t have a problem with it. You could also set your date for early next year, if you can wait that long. If you are both fine with eloping and won’t miss doing the wedding, then I say go ahead. You will probably save a lot of money doing it that way, but make sure you think it through, so you won’t later feel disappointed that you eloped.
Post # 5
As has been said many many times on this site…you get a wedding DAY not a wedding YEAR. She can whine all she wants but that’s really selfish to demand that you not get married in the same YEAR as her. Plan your wedding for whenever you want. If you’re both getting married in town and don’t expect a lot of travelers, then you can plan within two weeks of hers (to allow for a honeymoon). If you ARE expecting a lot of Out of Town guests, then you should give a bumper of at least a month.