Post # 1
So, I can’t talk about this on my blog because three of them read it, but it’s so hard when you are TTC and everyone keeps announcing that they are preggers. I have two friends due in August, one in October, two in November, two in January and one in March. I don’t know how long they were TTC, but it’s frustrating. The one who is due in March didn’t even want to have a baby for another two years.
We want to have a baby so freakin bad. I’m trying to follow my cycle, but I’ve been so off. Did I mention this is frustrating?
Anyone else in my boat?
Post # 3
well am not in your boat.. yet.. but i do know that worrying and stressing definitely dont help. as cliche as it sounds the moment u stop thinkin about something thats when it all seems to work out fine
Post # 4
It’s okay to be frustrated and even angry. It’s an emotional thing… just remember that there is a plan and for most people it will happen.
It’ll be tough, but try to be happy for your friends; they probably wanted a baby just as much as you do.
Post # 5
We’re not TTC yet (planning for late next year) but when we found out some friends of ours were pregnant on the weekend, I still felt jealous! I thought if I’m already feeling jealous how bad is it going to be when we’re actually TTCing and people are falling pregnant? So I have an inkling of how hard it is, but no idea of the whole reality. I like Miss Starry Night’s perspective – most of your friends wanted their baby as much as you want yours, and you don’t know how long/hard they had to try to get theirs either. It’s a bit like waiting to get engaged I think (for those of us who felt we were waiting) – we know our time will come but in the meantime it’s hard to see it happening for friends especially when it seems to come so easy to them. But we never know what’s happened behind closed doors. Stay strong 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks! I’m definitely happy for my friends, and I don’t know how long they were trying (minus the last one which was a complete surprise and since he lives out of town right now they know it only took once).
I know everything will happen at the right time, but it’s just hard hearing all these exciting annoucements when it’s what I want as well…knowing that I’m going to be going to at least 5 baby showers between now and March.
Thanks for listening!
Post # 7
Wow that’s a lot of babies! Just remind yourself that it takes a LOT of people at least 6 months (up to a year!) to get pregnant. The wham-bam-thank you-ma’am people are freaks of nature . And yeah, you never know what kind of trouble people are having. A girl i know from college just announced she was pregnant and i thought “wow that was quick!” and it turns out they’ve already had TWO miscarriages and it just broke my heart
Post # 8
And now the baby number has jumped to 12! I don’t want people to think that I’m not happy for my friends…because I definitely am. I just want to be right there with them.
Post # 9
@completelyrandomsally: How long have you been off BC and how long have you been TTC? It often takes people awhile to conceive so I wouldn’t worry yet. I have a friend who is due in February…her and hubby tried for 6 months before they got pregnant. I have another friend who TTC for 11 months before she got pregnant. This friend was even thinking about seeing a fertility specialist after the one year mark of TTC, but got pregnant.
Also, if you went off a hormonal BC to conceive it can take your body a few months to get into the swing of things. I know it’s hard, but try to just relax and focus on yourself, not all of the pregnant friends.
Post # 10
ummm… if it helps you feel better… we’ve been kinda TTC for over a year now. and the reason for not getting pregnant is due to my odd-ball body. Now, things are falling into place (I think) but I doubt I’ll concieve until next year!!! ARGH!!!
and my FSIL is pregnant with TWINS!!!
so, yep, I feel your pain. you go between being jealous and depressed to happy then back again. (fortunately, I have two already and enjoy them both greatly… still want another, though :P).
don’t stress about it, enjoy the process, and plan LOTS of romantic nights together. cause, honestly? after the little one is born, that time becomes more and more scarse. especially the older they get! (speaking as a mother of two – ages 7 & 4)
Post # 11
@jaylii9 – I’ve been off the pill since December. Seriously TTC since March…no protection whatsoever since December. I realize that it hasn’t been that long, but it seems like it has been since December.
Post # 12
@completelyrandomsally: I can’t say I know how you feel just yet, but I can relate with your body being off! I came off the pill in June and I have yet to get my first period since then. I’ve contacted my doctor and they don’t want to see me until at least September. We wanted to start trying after my first period off the pill, but it’s a little difficult when you aren’t getting your period at all (and no, not pregnant). Hang in there and feel free to vent your frustrations here.
Post # 13
I totally understand! I recently had a miscarraige, and can’t wait to start trying again. And of course, everyone is preggo around me! I especially get frusterated when people who already have babies get to have more (even though I am happy for them, just jealous of them!).
Post # 14
As a general rule, couples should seek professional assistance if they have been TTC for a year if you are under the age of 35, or trying to TTC for 6 months if you are over the age of 35.
You mentioned that you have been missing your cycle. If your cycle is irregular, have you tried over the counter ovulation predictor kits? These are not necessary for women with normal cycles (although they may provide reassurance that you are trying on the right days), but they are very useful if you have an irregular cycle.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park
We’ve been TTC since May, with no luck yet. I’m really hoping we fall into the 6-12 month category, as Mr. SD is about to have to hit the road for work!!