(Closed) Frustration!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Part of me feels like he is saying that to confuse you. My FI did that and had the ring the whole time. lol

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I think the fact he mentioned the ‘apparently we’re next’ comment is a positive sign 🙂 if he really wasn’t thinking about it I think he would have ignored it completely and not even brought it up 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

First post! I don’t know your SO obviously, but it sounds like he said the “we’re next” comment without thinking, then when you said “oh really” he panicked, thinking he gave something away. Maybe he said the next stuff to throw you off? A friend of mine had the exact same thing happen to her. Her SO said something (I can’t remember what it was) and she got all excited, but then he freaked out and started lying to her about how “it wouldn’t happen soon, so don’t get your hopes up.” Turns out he had the ring the whole time and was planning on proposing two months later (which he did), and he was trying to throw her off.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I can see the whole ‘Monica and chandler’ thing happening here 😉 not the break up bit (obv) but the trying to put you ‘off the scent’!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MissEMich:  This.

My FI was very vague about getting engaged – more like talking about it concretely. Damn trickster had my ring for over a month and had been searching for my ring for months! He said he wanted to propose earlier in the year but it didn’t feel right. Maybe your SO feels the same way? He just wants to surprise you.

I’ll say it again – waiting is excruciating, but once you get engaged all that anxiety dissipates immediately. It’ll be worth the wait!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Like PP have said, he might be trying to throw you off the scent. The very day my FI proposed to me, he said “Are you sure you want to go ring shopping? We can’t really afford it right now, and I don’t think that’s going to change for a while.” Little did I know that he had actually bought it already (and I should have known we could definitely afford it).

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Blimey, only a man could see being happy and content as a reason not to get engaged!! I hope like others have said its just to throw you off the scent and its coming soon.

If you really think it isn’t I’d be tempted to have a chat about when he does see you married etc… If he really meant that comment I’d also be wondering if he has some issue with marriage  , or really just to clarify that he does believe in marriage/sees himself getting married someday.

Still, I’m guessing you finish your qualifying year in July, so you might not have long to wait anyway -fingers crossed for you!

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