Post # 1
Just a general groan about how frustrating it is to wait for the ring. I feel I cannot grumble to my friends as we’re all in the same friendship group and him hearing about me moaning certainly won’t make the wait any quicker.
I have been with my SO for nearly 3 years and I have got to that stage where I know I am definately ready for the ring! We have now lived together for nearly 2 years. Yes we have had our ups and downs but now I think we’re definately at a place to move forward as we are both really happy and content with each other.
This is why what he came out with the other day is so frustrating. We were talking in the pub about our friend’s recent engagement and he said “apprantly we’re next!” to which I replied “oh really?” and he said “oh but that won’t be happening because we’re happy, right?”…. me = confused said “but isn’t that what you do when you’re happy? An engagement isn’t a fix it!” “Yes, but I think we should just be content with our lot and what we have right now!”
Very frustrating! I know we’re in it forever. We often talk about what our wedding will be like, what we will call our kids as well as growing old together. Now I am not so sure it’ll ever happen…. Is he right?
Post # 3
Part of me feels like he is saying that to confuse you. My FI did that and had the ring the whole time. lol
Post # 4
I think the fact he mentioned the ‘apparently we’re next’ comment is a positive sign 🙂 if he really wasn’t thinking about it I think he would have ignored it completely and not even brought it up 🙂
Post # 5
First post! I don’t know your SO obviously, but it sounds like he said the “we’re next” comment without thinking, then when you said “oh really” he panicked, thinking he gave something away. Maybe he said the next stuff to throw you off? A friend of mine had the exact same thing happen to her. Her SO said something (I can’t remember what it was) and she got all excited, but then he freaked out and started lying to her about how “it wouldn’t happen soon, so don’t get your hopes up.” Turns out he had the ring the whole time and was planning on proposing two months later (which he did), and he was trying to throw her off.
Post # 6
I can see the whole ‘Monica and chandler’ thing happening here 😉 not the break up bit (obv) but the trying to put you ‘off the scent’!!
Post # 7
Aww, thank you for all for your very kind and positive comments.
I am still skeptical lol! There are a few other things which make me think it isn’t coming any time soon.
I am currently in my first year of teaching and need to pass the year to fully qualify. In the same conversation he also said “you wouldn’t want to plan a wedding in your qualifying year anyway.”
Something else that made me think it is definately not on the cards is that he came home with a form which would make me his next of Kin and would mean I would get his pension if anything happened to him.. and obviously if we married that would happen automatically.
Post # 8
My FI was very vague about getting engaged – more like talking about it concretely. Damn trickster had my ring for over a month and had been searching for my ring for months! He said he wanted to propose earlier in the year but it didn’t feel right. Maybe your SO feels the same way? He just wants to surprise you.
I’ll say it again – waiting is excruciating, but once you get engaged all that anxiety dissipates immediately. It’ll be worth the wait!
Post # 9
Like PP have said, he might be trying to throw you off the scent. The very day my FI proposed to me, he said “Are you sure you want to go ring shopping? We can’t really afford it right now, and I don’t think that’s going to change for a while.” Little did I know that he had actually bought it already (and I should have known we could definitely afford it).
Post # 10
Blimey, only a man could see being happy and content as a reason not to get engaged!! I hope like others have said its just to throw you off the scent and its coming soon.
If you really think it isn’t I’d be tempted to have a chat about when he does see you married etc… If he really meant that comment I’d also be wondering if he has some issue with marriage , or really just to clarify that he does believe in marriage/sees himself getting married someday.
Still, I’m guessing you finish your qualifying year in July, so you might not have long to wait anyway -fingers crossed for you!